Post # 1
I have come to the realization that the typical bachelorette party is just not for me. I am going to be involved in planning my own party….so what I would like to do is this:
I heart lingerie. I would like to also make it a lingerie party (not wearing it, but bringing it as gifts if they want to)
I would like to get a palm reader to come to the party (this will be held at my home)
I am also thinking of making it an "Athena’s" party. FOr those of you who don’t know what this is, google Athena’s home novelties.
I would like all these because, well, these are all girly things, right? ANd it will be lots of desserts and cocktails. Does this sound like fun to any of you? I just feel like I have done the bar thing, over it – I am 28 now. It would require a limo or some transport, plus a hotel room, because we do live about 30-40 minutes outside of the city. But do people prefer to go out and play silly games with strange men? I REALLY don’t want to do that. Can’t I just throw this party myself, in honor of myself and my girlfriends? ALso, if I were to do this, what can I put on the invitations?
Post # 3
i love this idea and i believe i will be feeling the exact way as my day gets closer.
its sounds like a great time to me, but i could be biased. i think your friends will jump on the oppurtunity to hang out with you as a single chick. i dont think the activity is as important as the time spent would be.
you could throw it yourself…tho i dont know actual ettiquette. if you did it for yourself perhaps you could say "in lieu of a bachelorette party…." but maybe you could put the bug in your MoH ears or flat out tell them what you want and hopefully they would comply.
i have a friend who does Pure Romance. i dont want to turn it a sales event. maybe more of a show and tell with explicit directions. that and some music and movies sounds like a great time to me. more like an adult slumber party.
Post # 4
the thing is, I have a small wedding party – 3 girls, but one, my sister, has 2 young kids and can’t afford all this stuff. So, they are throwing me a big shower….I really don’t want to make them throw another party. My Maid/Matron of Honor and I have discussed things, I will definitely be involved in the planning either way…..she also just had a baby 6 months ago, so I know extra planning and $ isn’t good for her either. I know what you mean though, about being too "sales event", which I don’t want either. hhhmmmm…..
Post # 5
were you planning on getting some of the stuff yourself? maybe you could get your friend to demo the items that you are getting or have you eye on? or better yet, get her to demo the more "extraordinary" stuff. the stuff that makes people giggle, that sort of thing…..
could you roll everything into one day? have a "nice" shower and then an adult type shower afterwards? could your sister and friend get sitters for that nite?
Post # 6
I think your party sounds like a blast!
However, I have to chime in and say that I don’t think it’s ok for you to host this. It would be one thing if you were inviting your girls to come over for drinks and Sex and the City, but since you are asking them to spend $$ and bring you gifts (lingerie), it looks bad if you are the one throwing it. Of course, you could always chip in and have someone else’s name (like the MOH) on the invite.
Post # 7
True….I figured because people host these parties themselves all the time, it would be okay….but adding a lingerie type party on to it is completely different. DO you think its still okay for it to be at my house? The problem is no one else has the space. what if I just skip the lingerie part? Having a palm reader is expensive – $35 per person. So I am shelling out a lot of money if I do this. I just want to avoid my bridesmaids paying for something else, and I also don’t have the time for a bridesmaid luncheon. I just really don’t want to be forced into having a normal bachelorette party.
Post # 8
I’m with you, that sounds like a lot of fun!!!! I’m not doing the typical party either. In fact we’re thinkging about combining the rehersal dinner and stag/stagette parties all in one. Just start the "party" time later when those who don’t want to join in filter out.
I have to say they grooms party was appaled at this idea because you know men, they here stag party and think "strippers!" well FH so disilkes the idea of this. In fact any time he has been to a strip club in his life he has sat at the bar talking with them….not getting lap dances…lol. His friends teased him that maybe he played for the "other team" LOL!