(Closed) Bachelorette Questions!

posted 5 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
506 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Not selfish, do what YOU want! : )

Post # 4
134 posts
Blushing bee

Sounds like paradise! Can I come! I would looove a B party like that! I think I scared off my BM’s. 

Just a bunch of drama. I let eveyrbody know I was looking for a chill night with my fave girls. Kind of like what you are thinking. My Maid/Matron of Honor didn’t want to do anything after the bridal shower, she was financial strained by it and just over the whole planning thing. I asked two other BMs if they were interested. And one was all hyped about it. We’ll its less than a month from the wedding, and I’ve been askin her what the plan/date is. I think it ticked her off. I brought her invites to send out and ran a few alternative ideas by her since I got the vibe she was going for more of a stripper/get trashed kind of night. I think I offended her because she probably felt like I was closing off her ideas. and well, now my Maid/Matron of Honor is trying to step back up to fill in the gap and another Bridesmaid or Best Man says I’m lame on FB for not wanting to have strippers! lol GOSH, now I don’t even really want a B party at alll. EVerybody’s all mixed up. I really pray we can all just get together to hang out. I’m not with all this hype and drama.

SOoo thakns for letting me vent! I say you should def. do your own B party, some might be like wtheck, but it’s such a smarter way to do things. And your plans sound amazing. Just say nobody else really stepped up and asked to throw you one and if they seem interested, maybe appoint them some duties. LIke researching spas or buying/sending invites exc.

Post # 6
3886 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Could you do something other than the passion party? Lots of ladies would decline an invite to a passion party because they don’t like someone trying to sell them stuff or they don’t feel comfortable saying No to the sales pitch (no matter how discreet it is) but they’d feel really bad missing your bachelorette. Might make for some uncomfortable guests.

Post # 7
4352 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m planning on planning a decent portion of my own. My Maid/Matron of Honor is also engaged and I have a small bridal party so I want to help out with the planning. I talked to my Maid/Matron of Honor about it and she said she would love the help. I think if you want to help you should talk with your BMs and Maid/Matron of Honor and see if they’re ok with that. I think your Maid/Matron of Honor will be very receptive to the idea.

Post # 8
1425 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rosehill Community Center

My cousin’s was a mani-pedi and then dinner at a restaurant, and it was so nice.  I think we were all of age, but I wasn’t into drinking much, so she wanted to include me too, which was really nice.  I am kind of thinking to get mani-pedi’s with my ladies because it sounds nice!

I think it’s a-okay to plan your own party, but maybe don’t expect everyone else to pay your way?  But yeah, take the pressure off her, and at least give her ideas and everything so if she insists, it’s not a ton of work.

Post # 9
2786 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I semi-planned my own. We went away and I wanted to pay for the hotel, so I picked the weekend and booked it. Then the girls planned the actual activites.

I love the mani/pedi idea, but echo what PP said about a passion party….not everyone is comfortable with that kind of thing, expescially if your BMs don’t really know each other very well. 

If you want another activity between mani/pedis and the bar, what about a cooking class? I know in my area they have classs you can take where you make your dinner, and then they teach you about wines that go along with it….so you have your dinner and wine, and you learned something fun 🙂 Just an idea…

Post # 11
42 posts
  • Wedding: May 2013

@TheFutureMrsNguyen:  That sounds like a fantastic idea!! 2 out of my 3 bridesmaids are underage, and I don’t want to go to a bar or strip club with ONE Bridesmaid or Best Man anyway! I will probably steal your idea and do a mani/pedi day, plus maybe a fancy tea at a local restaurant.. That way, we can have wine OR tea, and add crackers and cheese and crumpets etc and it’ll be classy and wonderful! 

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