Post # 1
i have a few questions. First: woul it be totally weird to plan my own bachelorette? Would that come off selfish? The reason I ask is because my MoH lives 5 hours away, has a one year old and is planning her own wedding! Yikes! I want to have a bachelorette but I certainly don’t want to put that on her plate (obviously we’ll talk about it I’m jut asking theoretically would people be weirded out if I plan it myself?)
second: IF I plan my own it may be tricky to do something fun/appropriate for everyone. My BMs range from 15-24 at the time of the wedding so a straight up bar night won’t work. I was thinking mani-pedi in the afternoon so the 15yo can be involved then a passion party followed by a few drinks at a local bar. does that seem like a fun plan? I don’t want to leave the young girls out!
Third: bees with a large age range in your Bridal Party what did you do for your bachelorette??
Post # 3
Not selfish, do what YOU want! : )
Post # 4
Sounds like paradise! Can I come! I would looove a B party like that! I think I scared off my BM’s.
Just a bunch of drama. I let eveyrbody know I was looking for a chill night with my fave girls. Kind of like what you are thinking. My Maid/Matron of Honor didn’t want to do anything after the bridal shower, she was financial strained by it and just over the whole planning thing. I asked two other BMs if they were interested. And one was all hyped about it. We’ll its less than a month from the wedding, and I’ve been askin her what the plan/date is. I think it ticked her off. I brought her invites to send out and ran a few alternative ideas by her since I got the vibe she was going for more of a stripper/get trashed kind of night. I think I offended her because she probably felt like I was closing off her ideas. and well, now my Maid/Matron of Honor is trying to step back up to fill in the gap and another Bridesmaid or Best Man says I’m lame on FB for not wanting to have strippers! lol GOSH, now I don’t even really want a B party at alll. EVerybody’s all mixed up. I really pray we can all just get together to hang out. I’m not with all this hype and drama.
SOoo thakns for letting me vent! I say you should def. do your own B party, some might be like wtheck, but it’s such a smarter way to do things. And your plans sound amazing. Just say nobody else really stepped up and asked to throw you one and if they seem interested, maybe appoint them some duties. LIke researching spas or buying/sending invites exc.
Post # 5
@jeza_s: oh no! Well I say go for it and plan your own too! Haha I hope it turns out ok!
Post # 6
Could you do something other than the passion party? Lots of ladies would decline an invite to a passion party because they don’t like someone trying to sell them stuff or they don’t feel comfortable saying No to the sales pitch (no matter how discreet it is) but they’d feel really bad missing your bachelorette. Might make for some uncomfortable guests.
Post # 7
I’m planning on planning a decent portion of my own. My Maid/Matron of Honor is also engaged and I have a small bridal party so I want to help out with the planning. I talked to my Maid/Matron of Honor about it and she said she would love the help. I think if you want to help you should talk with your BMs and Maid/Matron of Honor and see if they’re ok with that. I think your Maid/Matron of Honor will be very receptive to the idea.
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rosehill Community Center
My cousin’s was a mani-pedi and then dinner at a restaurant, and it was so nice. I think we were all of age, but I wasn’t into drinking much, so she wanted to include me too, which was really nice. I am kind of thinking to get mani-pedi’s with my ladies because it sounds nice!
I think it’s a-okay to plan your own party, but maybe don’t expect everyone else to pay your way? But yeah, take the pressure off her, and at least give her ideas and everything so if she insists, it’s not a ton of work.
Post # 9
I semi-planned my own. We went away and I wanted to pay for the hotel, so I picked the weekend and booked it. Then the girls planned the actual activites.
I love the mani/pedi idea, but echo what PP said about a passion party….not everyone is comfortable with that kind of thing, expescially if your BMs don’t really know each other very well.
If you want another activity between mani/pedis and the bar, what about a cooking class? I know in my area they have classs you can take where you make your dinner, and then they teach you about wines that go along with it….so you have your dinner and wine, and you learned something fun 🙂 Just an idea…
Post # 10
@NowDontLetsBeSilly: Oh totally I wouldn’t expect them to pay my way at all!!
About the passion party, I hear ya. I know at least my Maid/Matron of Honor loooves the idea but I’ve not run it by my sisters.
Post # 11
@TheFutureMrsNguyen: That sounds like a fantastic idea!! 2 out of my 3 bridesmaids are underage, and I don’t want to go to a bar or strip club with ONE Bridesmaid or Best Man anyway! I will probably steal your idea and do a mani/pedi day, plus maybe a fancy tea at a local restaurant.. That way, we can have wine OR tea, and add crackers and cheese and crumpets etc and it’ll be classy and wonderful!