Post # 1
Alright so I need some advice bees…
I know a bachelorette is not the most important part of the wedding but I never get to have anything really for me, never really had a birthday/graduation/whatever else kind of party so I was kind of excited to have a bachelorette.
My Maid/Matron of Honor lives in FL (we are from/getting married in MD), bridal party consists of ppl in WV, NY, MD and VA. Maid/Matron of Honor has been having lots of health problems lately & I know she’s super stressed & tight for cash, so her coming up for the wedding is a lot even though she’ll be spending a few weeks there visiting her family. But another Bridesmaid or Best Man asked what’s going on w/ the bachelorette? I don’t even know what to do and reading about everyone else’s and how their BMs have gone all out for things makes me jealous. I don’t know if I should plan my own in fear that I won’t have one but I also don’t have the money to pay for everyone since I’d then be the host.
Please help me with what to do in planning my own or how to approach the situation, whether or not you were in a similar boat.
Post # 3
Just tell the Bridesmaid or Best Man who asked that its not possible for your Maid/Matron of Honor to plan a Bachelorette party for you. You can always say that you’d like to have one, but that you’re unsure whether they have time, money, and energy to throw one. You could always offer to help on the sly. Honestly, I think a lot of brides do end up helping with their own bachelorette party and showers, dpending on how involved they want the party. (i.e., if its beyond like cake and punch in the afternoon).
Maybe I’m wrong. I didn’t have either of those, but its just my perception from reading about them on the bee.
If they can’t throw you a party, you can always just host a party with your friends. It doesn’t have to be called anything formal. Just “Hey, I want to have a party with my best friends, can you be available.” Or you could make cutie invites so they see how it’s important to you.
Post # 4
Technically, brides are not supposed to throw their own showers or bachelorettes, it is in poor form to throw a party in your own honor. If you like, you can put together a girls night out that doesn’t pertain to the wedding.
I’m sorry your bridesmaids are not throwing these parties, but not everyone has a bachelorette.