Bachelorette/Bridal Shower Etiquette!?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Who do you invite to your bachelotette/bridal shower?
    All females invited to the wedding! : (1 votes)
    3 %
    Your female friends to the bachelorette and everyone to the bridal shower : (17 votes)
    45 %
    Jus tthe people you've met to both! : (15 votes)
    39 %
    Other (Discuss) : (5 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 2
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    I am not a big fan of what is proper….so I am the worst person to comment on this BUT I think that comfort is key. 

    <br />I would invite important females from his side that you might not know to the shower. Like..is he close with his grandmother? Basically heads of the family on his side that are female you could consider inviting. 

    <br />Bachelorette is ONLY PEOPLE YOU ARE COMFORTABLE WITH. These are your best girls (and guys if you have em) that you love to party with. <br /><br />Best of luck in your planning! 

    • This reply was modified 2 years, 6 months ago by  PunkRockPrincess. Reason: Those silly BREAK symbols. Not sure how to keep them from randomly showing up
    Post # 3
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    5017 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    simply.gould:  I would only invite close women to the bridal shower. I didn’t invite FI’s friends wives or anything – only women I was close to. 

    For the bachelorette…only close friends.

    Post # 4
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    simply.gould:  I’d only invite people I knew to either of these, if I got invited to a bridal shower and I’d never met the bride I’d feel like it was a little gift-grabby.  But I am not a fan of bridal showers in general.

    Post # 5
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    Busy Beekeeper

    There is no bachelorette party etiquette since etiquette doesn’t recognize these, but they are usually co-hosted and attended by your closest friends. Shower guest list will depend somewhat on the host, who can certainly ask for your input if it is not a surprise.  For example, if  a friend of your future MIL wanted to throw one so that her group of friends could meet you and bring shower type gifts that would be a different guest list than if your co-workers did a cooperative shower or if a friend did. 

    If a friend is hosting, then yes, I would expect the list to include close friends and family that you know well. These are meant to be low key events.  

    Post # 6
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    5204 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    simply.gould:  Here’s my approach:

    For the bridal shower: invite women who are close to you and who are local.  I opted to exclude all but my closest girlfriends since I didn’t want them to have to attend that event as well as the bachelorette.  For your FI’s family, invite the ones you know and will become close with.

    For the bachelorette: invite your girlfriends and family members who are about your age.

    Post # 7
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    25 posts
    Newbee

    We are only inviting our closest female relatives/friends to the shower…..if I invited all the females my shower would be more than I’d like…

    Post # 8
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    1627 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Closest friends and family you want to celebrate with and are also invited to the wedding.

    Post # 9
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    30 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I would invite all people of a certain group to the shower – for example, if you were going to invite some of FI’s aunts then you should invite the aunts you haven’t met.  Other than that I wouldn’t invite everybody.

    For the bachelorette, it would definitely be close friends only – people you wouldn’t feel embarassed in front of!

    Post # 11
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    14 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I don’t know what is proper, but I personally would go with inviting all females that are invited to the the wedding that live in the area for the shower and just the ladies you are close with to the bachelorette.  I mean, I wouldn’t want my fiance’s great-aunt at my bachelorette party… lol.  Really though, what do you want?  Do that.

    Post # 12
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    135 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I know all the women invited to the wedding. For the bridal shower I chose women who live in the immediate area who were invited. (I have a handful coming from states away.)

    I chose younger women for the bachelorette party from the list of those invited to the shower, minus two girls who would turn it into something I don’t want. And a handful of girls who were too young or would be uncomfortable.

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