Post # 1
I have always dreamed of having a bachelorette party. FI had a bachelor party and hes actually having another one in November even though we will be married. Basically another guys weekend. Whatever. I dont care.
Well, I cant get all of my girls in one place for a bachelorette party which sucks. I dont want to go out with 2 of the 6. I cancelled my bachelorette in Myrtle Beach cause no one was commiting and decided to do Raleigh near where I live instead. Then I felt like i was compromising on what I wanted when I was the bride. So I cancelled that weekend all together since only 2 of my people would go. Then decided I would do it next weekend up north where my sister and cousin could make it. Now 3 of the 6 cant make it. I am ok with that but I still feel a bit let down. I was ok with going just me and one bridesmaid down here and two from up there but now my sisters mom is about to die. She text me yesterday saying they were taking her home today to die at home (she has cancer). I dont want to have a party near her while her mom is about to die or right after she dies. I dont know what to do. Should i just not have a bachelorette? Im not big on going out partying anyway, I havent done that in atleast 2 years. I have no problem having a girls weekend at some point and it not being my bachelorette I just think there isnt much time left and I dont want to put pressure on my sister to get in a good mood with her mom on her death bed or having just died.
Post # 3
@jesssamesssa: By sister I assume you mean stepsister or something because otherwise wouldn’t you have the same mom?
Anyway, for your sister, obviously her mom comes ahead of your bachelorette and you can’t expect her there.
For the rest: have you considered doing a single night (or day) instead of a weekend? I’ll admit up front I’m “old school” on this – I think a bachelorette should be a single day or night. A weekend is a big commitment and that is why it’s so hard to get the girls to agree. But if it’s a single day or night, you might have a better chance of getting most of the girls to come.
Post # 4
@jesssamesssa: I would just do a nice lunch for the “bachelorette” deal, so that you can say you did have one, but then hold off on the girls weekend until after the wedding. That way you can show how much you care about your sister, and show how important it is to have all your girls together.
I lost my dad to brain cancer a couple of years ago and I still had family events to attend (no bachelorette parties tho) and it was really hard to be totally present, but I still wanted to be there. If you just do a lunch, your sister will be included and won’t feel like she’s responsible for you not having your bachelorette party.
Post # 5
I would definitely do one night instead of a weekend.
And if no one can make it, do a nails and wine partyin your hotel room the night before your wedding!
Post # 6
Yes, she is my half sister, same dad, different moms. I would do 1 day but there are only 24 hours in a day. My sister lives 12 hours from me. Counsin is 7 hours from me and another bridesmaid is 3 hours from me. 2 are an hour away and 1 is my neighbor. That is why I was going to drive up 7 hours and that way my sister wouldnt have to drive so far or fly or whatever. If her mom did die before the party I wouldnt expect her there. Not at all. But it would be pretty pointless for me to drive 7 hours north for my bachelorette with 2 of my girls when the whole points was so that it would be easier for my sister to attend. Id do something the night before but we are all staying at my parents house the night before except for 1 BM since she has a family. We are going to have a pig pickin / pool party kinda rehearsal dinner so I know that will be fun for everyone. Just sucks. But nothing I can do about it.
Post # 7
@jesssamesssa: You should come to Myrtle Beach next weekend with whatever girls can make it, and we’ll meet up and roll deep in the club! 🙂 LOL
I understand what you mean though. Only one of my bridesmaids can’t make it, but about 3-4 other friends we invited aren’t going to make it either. It sucks not to have everyone, but I’ll just enjoy getting away for a weekend and having some girl time!
Post # 8
I had the same problem, but it happens, I had 2 other people and myself and we went on a wine tsting bus around the city and we ended up having a bunch of fun.