Bachelorette party etiquette

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
7052 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@tlmckns:  I would say that if you gave a commitment to be there and they booked a hotel assuming you’d be there, it is still your responsibility to pay your share of hotel expenses, or at least some of them. If you had booked your own room, you would still be paying for it (unless you had travel insurance).

That said, the other girls should be gracious about it, and the bride has no right to be “cold” to you about it. You are friends and should be able to work it out as friends.

Post # 4
1739 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

If this happened to a friend of mine, I would not be upset at all. This was 100% out of your hands. You can not land the plane/jet – I would not expect any funds from you at all. I feel more sorry for you then her at this point. You missed out on a party that you really tried to get to – and on a plane. You sound like a great friend, just happened to have bad luck with the weather that day. Not your fault!

Post # 7
907 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Definitely ask the moh-or whoever put her credit card down for the room how much your share was and pay for it. I was a moh for my best friend’s wedding and 3 people backed out last minute and I had to cover their shares.  I planned the weekend with them included so when they backed out-I didn’t think it was fair to make the other girls cover them. As moh I felt i had to step-up but would have LOVED the other girls to honor their commitments so I wouldn’t have to pay over a grand extra for the bachelorette party. 

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