Post # 1
I was planning to go to a bachelorette party for one of my good friends last weekend. I was to fly out to Las Vegas for it and stay two nights with the ladies. The plane went to Vegas, circled for 30 minutes and then had to go back to the departing city because of bad weather. There were no more flights to go back because it was late at night and I had no other way of getting there. I ended up not going because of this. I was super bummed and told the bride that I could not make it and she seemed okay with it at the time. I do not know about proper etiquette because I have never been in this situation, but how much should I offer to give towards the hotel/expenses? I e-mailed the bride to get this conversation started, but she was really cold to me and said that she was going to talk to me early next week to “discuss” what happened.
Post # 3
@tlmckns: I would say that if you gave a commitment to be there and they booked a hotel assuming you’d be there, it is still your responsibility to pay your share of hotel expenses, or at least some of them. If you had booked your own room, you would still be paying for it (unless you had travel insurance).
That said, the other girls should be gracious about it, and the bride has no right to be “cold” to you about it. You are friends and should be able to work it out as friends.
Post # 4
If this happened to a friend of mine, I would not be upset at all. This was 100% out of your hands. You can not land the plane/jet – I would not expect any funds from you at all. I feel more sorry for you then her at this point. You missed out on a party that you really tried to get to – and on a plane. You sound like a great friend, just happened to have bad luck with the weather that day. Not your fault!
Post # 5
Thanks 🙂 I will just ask her how much they want me to pay and take it from there. I would hate to lose the friendship over this and was going to ask her about it when I e-mailed her, but her coolness took me by surprise.
Post # 6
Lol, yeah I feel pretty sorry for myself as well. It was going to be my first weekend away from my kiddos ever and this mommy needed some time off. I moved across the country from her and this would have been the first time I would have seen her in a year. I was really upset about it.
Post # 7
Definitely ask the moh-or whoever put her credit card down for the room how much your share was and pay for it. I was a moh for my best friend’s wedding and 3 people backed out last minute and I had to cover their shares. I planned the weekend with them included so when they backed out-I didn’t think it was fair to make the other girls cover them. As moh I felt i had to step-up but would have LOVED the other girls to honor their commitments so I wouldn’t have to pay over a grand extra for the bachelorette party.