Post # 1
I am a bit stressed out about the fiance’s bachelor party…its taken a new name as you can tell. I’ve never heard of a week an a half bachelor party…have you? Fiance’s groomsmen want to go to Brazil and want to have a bachelor party in Brazil! That’s almost longer than our HONEYMOON would be! On top of that, it is 3 months before the wedding and we don’t quite got this wedding in the bag in terms of planning go. Is it just me or a week an a half for a bachelor party is overboard or am I just out of the loop in terms of bachelor parties go.
Post # 3
I think that’s above and beyond. My FI is having a nice weekend golf trip with his buddies (Friday, Saturday, Sunday). It was looking to be pretty spendy, but after some discussion we both agreed it was getting out of hand ($1000 weekend, when we are still worrying about the price of the RD). So there was a lot of email, and they are playing some less expensive courses, and moved the date a little earlier to take advantage of some early season packages, and its now down to about half that.
If you guys have unlimited money, and of course if he has unlimited time off work, then the only issue is whether you think it’s reasonable for him to spend that much time on a guys-only trip. If it somehow impacts you as a couple either financially or as far as his ability to get the time off for your honeymoon, I would say its unreasonable.
And on the one hand, the bachelor party is their deal. But I also think that how these situations work out is indicative of how the two of you are going to solve problems involving money and time in the future. So an inability to compromise on his part, or inability to reasonably discuss your concerns, is probably a bad sign.
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2008 - United Methodist Cathedral & historic downtown hotel in Cleveland
Mr. Dahlia’s cousin actually went to Amsterdam for nearly a week for his bachelor party, so while what your fiance is proposing isn’t unheard of, it is rather extravagent.
If he’s got the $$ and the vacation time, then I see no problem in him going.
Post # 5
um, yea. that is waaay too long and uber extravagant for a bachelor party. i mean brazil?! for a week and a half?! how about he saves that trip for you and him?!! i see no problem in taking a few days off for a bachelor party, maybe in another state or city, but another country and for that long, i think is too much.
my fiancee is spending a weekend (fri-sun) in key west, while i go to nyc. we’re both from miami,fl. which i think is plenty.