Post # 1
Just curious if any of my fellow bees feel the same way I do about the Bacherlorette party. Mine is this weekend.
I don’t want a bus or to invite a million people. I don’t want to lug around a big penis balloon (hey lets face it – the penis has lost its mystery lol) or do the suck for a buck shirt (maybe just the bouquet) or even wear the crown.
Really all I wanted was for me and my bridesmaids to go out for dinner and then bar hopping like we use to (before everyone got married and had kids). We’ll be in my hometown so will be hitting my favorite spots.
My FI is having his later in the year and wants to ice fish with the boys and then go up to the local bar and play cards/drink some beers.
What are your thoughts on your bachelorette party?
Post # 3
I banned all things penis related from my bachelorette. I am not 22 anymore and even then, it wasn’t something I would have done! I don’t think there is anything wrong with it, just not for me. I opted to have a spa weekend with my girls and we went out for a spell at Mohegan Sun. That was enough craziness for this gal! 🙂
Post # 4
I’m going on a beach vacation with my bridesmaids, where we’ll be sipping margaritas on the beach for a long weekend and I couldn’t be more excited about it! It’s really just an excuse for everyone to have a girls’ trip together.
Your plan sounds wonderful to me! I also never wanted to wear a veil or sash or carry around a penis balloon.
Post # 5
You can never go wrong with a really fabulous drag show!
Post # 6
Eh, I was all for the Penis stuff, LOL you only get to have a bach party once. We went to a resort town for the weekend for mine. Went out to eat than clubbing, I just couldn’t drink though because I was also happened to be pregnant at the time. But it was fun and I was 37 at the time.
Post # 7
I loved mine. We booked a day suite at a really posh hotel that has an onsite spa, and they arranged to have 4 nail techs in the suite. Girls took turns all day going down to the spa for massages and facials or going to the suite for mani/pedi. We had wine and nibbles in the suite and lots of fun. Then a nice dinner, and a few drinks at a neighborhood bar. No penises, no stupid fake veils, no one vomited, everyone had a lovely time 🙂
BUT I did have to be very clear with the bridesmaids, since they were planning the party, as to what I did not want. For some reason my sister (MoH) really wanted to get a stripper. And I did not want one! So there was a little bickering but not much.
Post # 8
@coolbride125: most of the bachelorette parties I’ve attended in my 30’s are exactly that – dinner + drinks/bar hopping.
Post # 9
I just want to go out with friends in Philly to my favorite places…but even if I were a lot younger, I wouldn’t want all that crap. I think it’s dumb.
Post # 10
I never had a bachelorette party. However, I went to one last weekend for a woman who is 49. There were penises everywhere. She even wore a veil with penises all over it. Certainly not my thing, but she seemed to enjoy it a lot.
If I had had a bachelorette party, I think I’d prefer something low key…a spa day would be ideal. Your idea for dinner and then hitting the bars you used to hit before everyone was married with children sounds like something I would enjoy too.
Post # 11
I will have just turned 30 when I have mine. If possible I would love to have a weekend with as many of my ladies as possible. Go out to dinner/drinks/penises/dancing and I also want a sleepover where we cook dinner and drink wine and talk.
Post # 12
I had the best bachelorette party. I had a 2-night bachelorette. The first night, my bridesmaids and I had some drinks, went out to dinner, and then went to a piano bar. The next day, some of my relatives joined us for pedicures and sight seeing (we were in Chicago). After a wardrobe change and the arrival of some additional guests, we went out for dinner and then to a champagne bar. We hit a drag show before bar-hopping and dancing the rest of the night. It was the best.weekend.EVER.
We had women ranging in age from 25-36 and we all had a great time – nobody felt out of place. We didn’t have any penis novelties because the ladies knew it wasn’t my style – just a sash and a veil. At some point I gained a bouquet of birthday balloons that were left behind at the drag club and tacky sunglasses that my SIL stole from a promo girl but I owe those to the vodka. 🙂
I think trying to model it after a girls night out is definitely the way to go. You know best what you and your girlfriends like to do when you cut loose.
Post # 13
@Nona99: That would be awesome!
I’d’ like a winery day trip or a day or two in NYC, with some cupcakes thrown in there somewhere. Mmm…cupcakes!
Post # 14
I can’t handle the bar scene at all nor the penis stuff and dressing up etc etc. I just want a girls night in where we drink wine and watch silly love movies and indulge in yummy food etc.
Post # 15
LOL I completely understand. One of my bridesmaids was all excited to plan out a straight up drunken/stripper/rent a hotel room…
Which I responded to and let her know. “No. My Bachlorette Party was my 20s.” I’m going to be 35 this year. If I drink, I drink beer and it’s usually artisian microbrewed deliousness.
My plans? To be some place quiet. If the girls want to come, they are welcome to. Maybe to Texas De Brazil (where there will be handsome Brazillian men handing me meat) or just a relaxing day enjoying few moments of singleton-hood.
Post # 16
I settled on a blues lounge for dinner with live performance. We were wearing cocktail dresses and none of the other nonsense with props, sashes, or crowns. Then we went dancing to a “25 and over” lounge. It was a very nice evening for me and the ladies were not afraid to tell their husbands what they did at my “bachelorette”.
The guys went to a cigar lounge and a brewery but they did dress up my FI. They sent pictures over dinner, it was quite funny 😉 He refused to go to a “gentleman’s club” so his punishment was to wear a blonde wig the whole night.