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Bach'ette party help: 16yo bridesmaid, and BP not getting along??

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    LisaG    5.9.09  

    I'm worrying about my bachelorette party for two huge reasons:

    First of all, one of my bridesmaids is only 16 years old (my fiance's youngest sister).

    Secondly, my bridal party is not getting along with each other at all.  My BP consists of 3 of my girlfriends (who all get along with one another) and my fiance's 2 sisters, who my girlfriends do NOT get along with at all due to shower-planning-drama (I don't know the details, thankfully). 

    My MOH has asked me what I'd like to do for my bachelorette party, but I don't know what to do.

    Does anyone have any ideas for a bachelorette party that a 16 year old can attend, and that won't be too awkward when the bridal party is divided into two groups that absolutely hate each other?  lol I mean I *could* do a dinner in a nice restaurant to keep it PG, but the idea of spending 2 hours at a table watching the two sides glare at each other would be torture for me.

    TIA!

     
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    happilywaiting       Massachusetts

    What about doing a "spa day" with lunch & spa treatments....when my friends & I do this it's always soooo fun & sooooo relaxing that any "drama" is relaxed away :)

     
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    LisaG    5.9.09  

    That's a good idea, I'll definitely suggest that as an option!

    Oh I forgot one other detail, lol.  My MOH is 2 months pregnant, so that rules out any sort of alcohol imbibing altogether, even after the 16 year old goes home ;-)  These girls are not making it easy on me, lol!!

     
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    Well I think since you have a preggy MOH and a 16yr. old you've figured out what you won't be doing.  If you went to a chick flick the feuding maids won't need to sit near each other nor talk to each other.

     
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    rosychicklet    September 27, 2008   Boston, MA

    Perhaps have the party divided into more than one part- so people can participate in what they want to.  For example, spa day, then dinner, then clubbing/dancing.  The 16yo and the pregnant BM can opt out of the dancing portion.

    Another  option might be paint your own pottery?  Pretty tame, but you could do other stuff before/after.

    I think an activity- as opposed to a slumber party or general hanging out- will help to minimize the not getting along stuff.

    Other options: roller skating, paint ball, museum, amusement park, sightseeing stuff (if you're near a city), dance lessons, etc.

     
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    MightySapphire      

    I'd prolly opt out of the paint ball, roller skating, and amusement park, because they're all high risk for your preggers MOH.

    My Bach party is going to be a spa day, so I have to second that!  While one group is getting their toes done the other can be getting their mani.  Plus few girls will bicker in front of the bride, they usually save the snide comments for after you leave.Bach'ette party help: 16yo bridesmaid, and BP not getting along?? :  wedding Icon Wink

     
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    happilywaiting       Massachusetts

    LMAO Sapphire....totally right!!!

     
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    jenny.j       Ontario, Canada

    You could always do some sort of activity where someone else is leading it, so the conversation wouldn't be as awkward... like a fun cooking class or jewellery making class. Those could be super fun, and good for everyone.

     

     
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    June Bug    June 5, 2010   Boulder, CO; McDonough, GA

    I know a girl who went to a baseball game for her bachelorette party. Not the girliest thing, but if you like sports it might be a fun way to spend some time together without having to be too awkward.

    I do love the idea of a spa day. Definitely going to be a suggestion I make to my girls :) 

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    worcesterbride    August 15, 2009   live in NYC, wedding in Worcester, MA

    I'm dealing with a very similar situation (18yo BM, tension between various bridesmaids - they're not in two groups, thankfully), and I've just handed the whole thing over to my MOH. I told her about my various concerns, and threw some ideas at her, and she said she'd take them into account and plan something that would hopefully work... it's been a huge weight off my shoulders.

    I don't know if your MOH would be able to do that for you, but it's definitely worth considering... especially since this is really supposed to be a day for you - a break/fun time/celebration of your single life. For me, I wouldn't be able to enjoy that aspect of it if I were trying to handle logistics and mediate bridesmaid drama. Good luck!

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