Post # 1
I have 1 Maid/Matron of Honor and 2 BMs. I have about four other friends who I would want included as well.
My Maid/Matron of Honor said she’d plan it, but she told one of my BMs that she doesn’t know what to do so she will ask me what I want.
I don’t like bars and I don’t like clubs. I’m not totally opposed to a ‘penis’ themed party. I feel like it’s so totally not me, but having a penis cake or something would be kind of funny. When else do you get to do stuff like that?
Problem is, it’s so not my MOH’s cup of tea. I almost feel like I’d be judged by her if I were to propose the idea.
And I don’t know what to tell her I want to do. Should I suggest we just hang out at someones house? What would we do? I’m afraid it would turn out to be really boring.
Going to a restaurant seems like it would be too impersonal. With that many people, I wouldn’t really get to talk to everyone.
My Maid/Matron of Honor did mention to my Bridesmaid or Best Man that she thought maybe I’d like a spa day. But… again, kinda boring? I don’t know. 🙁 I wish I were more of a party animal. I just don’t want it to be a snoozefest.
Post # 3
@feelingfriendless1: We had about 12 of us and we did a nice dinner out at an Italian restaurant (I have a pasta obsession) and then went to a karaoke “bar” where we belted showtunes (we’re theater people) all night (but they also have “normal” music too haha) in a private room. I drank myself half to death, but plenty of other people just sang and danced (private rooms = no judgment and more fun!) with only a drink or two.
I don’t know where you live, but I know in the NYC area there’s this guy who is a DJ who comes to your house and DJs while he cooks for you that girls use for bachelorette parties all the time. Something like that could be a more fun way to stay in. http://www.djchef.com/bridal.html
Post # 4
@feelingfriendless1: If you don’t like bars and clubs, then it sounds like an intimate dinner at a restaurant or a spa would be something you would enjoy. I wouldn’t worry about it being “boring.” Just choose an activity you like, and that you feel the girls would like too. You could even do a cooking class, rock climbing, paint ball, whatever. It doesn’t have to have penis balloons to get to the point of the party – celebrating with your friends.
Post # 5
I’m(MOH) currently planning the bachelorette for my best friend(Bride). She has expressed total opposition for anything penis related. She honestly wants a nice girls weekend talking, relaxing ets. I have a wonderful friend that is allowing the 6-8 of us to use their condo (8ish blocks from Lake Michigan in Chicago). We have tickets to BlueMan Group as the bride and many of the bm’s love theatre. Then we plan on just taking what may come. Wander the city, cook ourselves, or order in. The bride got me the card game Cards Against Humanity (think an adult version of Apples to Apples) as a thank you for hosting her shower. I’m bringing that to play. Also planning to play a panties game where each of the guests has been asked to bring a pair of panties for the bride that makes them think of something they did or experienced with the bride and she has to guess who they are from. Example cheetah print panties for a guest that met the bride on a college trip to the zoo with a club they were in together. I did also ask each of the ladies to bring something pretty/ classy sexy to help her have a nice lingerie wardrobe to start her new married life.
Other options would be to do a day trip in the area. Wine tastings at a local vinyard(there are many vineyards all over the place now), a microbrewery tour, in home cooking lessons/gourmet meal by a chef(do a google search this is more popular all the time), a concert, zoo, regional small town festival, in home make overs (Mary Kay reps will do these), etc.
If you really have your heart set on the penis cake but don’t feel the Maid/Matron of Honor would feel comfortable getting it, then mention it to a Bridesmaid or Best Man or friend that would be cool with making it happen and they can tell the Maid/Matron of Honor they volunteer to bring the . Win-win.
Just keep it fun and comfortable for everyone and it won’t matter what you’re doing you’ll have a blast. It’s all about the memories with great friends. As long as you don’t forget that you won’t fail.