Post # 1
So here I was thinking a girls weekend would be a nice thing. UMMMM..not really!
I rather not go into all the details, but this is what started everything… it is too much to ask if you go out to a club/bar for everyone to leave together if the guest of honor is ready to call it a night? Am I asking too much? I ended up taking a cab back with one of bridesmaids (one couldn’t go and trip and one stayed with the other two girls). I’m just curious about what everyone’s thoughts are on this?
Post # 3
I think that when the bride is ready to go, all of the others should be too. I mean, especially if you are bar hopping. It’s YOUR night, they get to call the shots all the other nights they come with, so I don’t see what the big deal should be.
Post # 4
did you have something planned for afterwards or were you just wrapping it up?
Post # 5
I am torn, If I were the friend, I would go.
However, depending on the time and you were “done” and I was that person, I would want them to stay and have fun. Especially depending on the time. Are we talking 10pm or 1am?
Post # 6
If you were going to do something else then they should have left with you. If you were calling it a night ang going home or something why couldnt they keep partying?
Post # 7
eh I’m sort of torn on this. If you wanted to go do something else, then yes everyone should go with you. But if you were just calling it a night, then why not let the rest of the girls stay and have fun.
Post # 8
I think they should have gone with you. They are celebrating you, so it seems like they should want to be wherever you are! And it’s just one night… they can go out again another night if they want!
Post # 9
Yea, I think it reallly depends on the circumstances. Depends what time in the night it was, what everyone was doing, and if you were doing anything after. If you weren’t doing anything after and everyone was having a good time, I don’t see the problem with them staying. But if you already had a good chunk of time there and were planning on something after, I would say they should’ve gone with you.
Post # 10
I agree that if you were just heading home, they should have been able to stay and hang out. Just because you went to bed, doesn’t mean they had to stop celebrating. However, if you wanted to do something else, they all should have left with you.
Post # 11
I have to agree with some PPs. I guess it really depends on the situation. You didn’t share all details so I am going to have to say that they are adults and if they want to stay out and enjoy the night, then good for them!
I do hope you had a great night besides that incident.
Post # 12
Whoopsies daisies! Double post – WB told me I actually needed to submit content, but it looks like I already did. 😉
Post # 13
We had had dinner and then went to a bar/club. This was around 1 am. Okay, I might as well say it, they came home around 4:30am and brought guys with them. It woke me and the bridesmaid that came home with me up. I just think that is just not right. I guess I figure if it was any other girls night and they chose to do do that, that’s there choice…not the smartest choice..but their choice. But not when this supposed to be my bachlorette party.
Post # 14
You said you wanted to call it a night. Obviously the evening with you would have been over.
Were you all staying together and spending the weekend together? If you were all staying at a hotel or cottage etc, then I think they should have gone home as a group.
If not, I think they were perfectly entitled to you carry on. It’s not as if you were going somewhere else as a group.
ETA- you just posted additional information. As I said before, if you were all staying together, they should have gone back to the accomodations with you. It was definitley inappropriate to bring the guys back.
Post # 15
@ADBK2011: Bringing guys home for Bachelorette party= not ok. I would be upset!
Post # 16
@ADBK2011: wait…they brought guys to your house?
I can see wanting to stay out if you were calling it an early night and didn’t have anything else planned. What are they suppose to do? Watch you sleep?
HOWEVER, bringing guys back is not cool.