Post # 1
I am a plus size bride. I will be getting a size 30w wedding dress. My wedding is October 13th of this year. I have a terrible body image. I can’t bring myself to try on dresses because I am afraid of what people will think. I have a lot of back fat and I have very large breasts. (I’m talking 46H ladies!) I am going to invest in shape wear and I have been attempting 2 work out. My wedding is coming and I still don’t have a dress. I am going to order it from dressilyme.com, so I can get a custom sized dress. I was just wonder if there were any brides out there that had to hide back fat. I am going to get a dress with a high back and on that won’t make my boobs look even bigger. I guess what I am asking is what did you do to hide it?
Post # 3
Hey I’m getting married on the same day! Wedding day twins 🙂
So I am a plus size bride also, and while I have tried on some dresses, I have not chosen one just yet. Here is what I have tested and found out so far, since strapless is out of the question for me also. But I also have a large chest, and a V neck really helps slims and flatters us. Empire waist made me look pushed up (in a bad way) and squished. Ruching is great for hiding buldges. Ilusion tops help to conceal shoulders and a higher back, but still remain sexy 😉
I really suggest trying on dresses because you can then just rule out anything you know you don’t want. but you also may be surprised by what looks great and you feel beautiful in that you wouldn’t have thought of!
Don’t be scared of trying on dresses. Two things: The consultants have seen it all, and anyone you bring with you will be and should be supportive as they love you! also, I wore my shapewear to my appointment to try on dresses, because I felt more “covered” when I had to be helped into my dresses. Rather than just being in a bra and panties. Have fun. I mean, no matter which size a person is (size 2 or 32) not every dress is going to look stunning. When a dress looks silly or is unflattering, just remember “This is just this dress, it’s not for everyone- Bring on the next one!”
I know it’s hard be honest with a stranger (like a consultant) and just come out with your concerns and issues with your body- but they really have experience. I even called ahead and found out if there was a person who specifically dealt with plus sized women- and there was. she was really great, and put me at ease and helped me a lot.
Post # 4
Since you are in Baltimore (or at least your wedding location is listed that way, so I’m assuming you’re local there) you may want to take a trip to Curvy Girls Bridal in Fairfax, VA. I have recommended them a couple of times on this site but I don’t work for them. I just had a really good experience trying on and buying a dress there. They have a lot of samples in plus sizes. I am a street size 16/18, wedding dress size 20, and had a completely different style of dress in mind when I went shopping— turns out another style/cut looks a lot better on me— I was actually going to go the designer knock-off route too but was pretty happy to have been able to try on stuff in person. I think I tried on about 14 dresses that afternoon. I think it would be well worth the drive, or at least a phone call to see how many samples they might have for you to try on.
They ordered 3 yards extra fabric with my dress and will be making me a bolero, partly because I’ve got quite a few tattoos to cover up on my back and partly because I just don’t feel comfortable in strapless, sleeveless dresss. No matter who you order from, consider a custom bolero or wrap, or ordering some extra fabric to have a local tailor do that for you.
I’m not trying to say “you have to cover up” because honestly I don’t think any bride should be made to feel like she HAS to cover up due to her size. But being a plus-size girl myself, I know sometimes it’s more about what you are comfortablw with than what you look like. If you’ve got a matching jacket or bolero, you can always take it off, too.
Post # 5
Just wanted to say…I’m getting married the same day as well!!!
Try getting a dress that has a corseted back which will hide any imperfections. Especially look for ruching aroud the waist and anything with an asymertrical waist line. I have no real back fat issues in my dress and my dress was ordered in a size 14. Maggie Sottero is great for corseted back gowns. You could probably get one of their prioritized gowns which dont take 6 months to come in. Or did you check at David’s Bridal?
I hope you are able to find your imperfect dress!!! Good luck
Post # 6
There was just a thread floating around about cardigans with wedding dresses, and the pictures are super cute! Since you have a fall wedding, maybe that’s something to consider? If its your style.
Post # 7
I got a killer Pronovias dress (size 20) from Curvaceous Couture in Columbia, MD – they specialize in plus sizes and I think they can help you – check them out and let me know what happens…we’ve got to support one another!
Post # 8
@thelaw610: I probably would steer away from internet shops for dresses – you need to try it on if you can. The shop I purchased my dress from, they go up to size 32, so try not to stress too much about them not having your size in. I know from experience it’s hard to pick what works best without actually trying it on. I purchased 3 gowns from china and none of them did anything for me.
I agree with the corset back, that will help pull the dress in where it needs and also give you room where you need it. I have a big bust too and I found that some of the dresses had like an extra strap in the back like a bra strap (not those useless cups they put in).
If you are worried about back fat, you can always get a gorgeous lace bolero, I have one coming from Etsy. They also make them in tulle or all kinds of fabrics.
I’m sure you willl look lovely in the dress 🙂
Post # 9
I too got my dress at Curvaceous Couture in Columbia, MD. I really wanted to avoid trying on dresses, but I have to say–the ladies at Curvaceous Couture were awesome and made my shopping experience wonderful!
One more thing–I looked good in dresses I wouldn’t have dared to try on or pick out of magazine. I went in with an open mind and came out with a dress I adore!
Post # 10
I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man a few years ago and had to wear a strapless dress. I ordered the dress larger than it needed to be so that my seamstress could alter it to fit my body.
I have pretty broad shoulders and no boobs! She attached elastic to the inside of my dress in a very creative way so that it would say up but not create any extra back fat. My back looked better than another thin BMs because the dress wasn’t so tight.
If you are uncomfortable exposing your back, you could also add a wrap or a bolero so that your back isn’t explosed. Also, if you have a veil, it may cover your back quite a bit as well.
When trying dresses on, keep an open mind. Don’t rule out a dress before trying it on because you think it may not look good on you or may draw attention to certain areas. You may be pleasantly surprised!
Post # 11
Thank you ladies!!! I am sorry I have not comment sooner. I will be going to try on dresses in a week or two. I am currently looking into shapewear to help me with my body issue. I also am in love with the Cardigan idea that was mentioned. My wedding dress search continues, but it is sooo great to have received such nice feedback!
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Post # 13
I hope things went well for you. This may be late but thought I would post. I don’t like the look of back fat and eating off of my boobs so strapless was out of the picture for me. I also found that typical v-neck dresses had way too much cleavage for me as I am short. I decided on a custom dress with illusion straps and back as it gave me the coverage I want plus I LOVE lace. The custom dress was the best decision I made and very VERY well priced. Pretty much the same cost as an order from a bridal store.
The covered back and straps gave me the chance to wear a very form fitting dress that doesn’t squueze you like a sausage. All I wore was control top panties and had the bra cups sewn in. The dress was heavy enough fabric that it kept its shape without out squishing everything out. I had the bust fitting very tight as I like to press them down a bit and then had a tad amount of room in my waist and hips. I feel it was a good fit.
A few pics for you:
Hope this helps!
Post # 14
I think you want something that makes a flattering shape across the back. The straight-across strapless dress will not be very flattering.
Look for something that slopes downwards towards your spine, like this dress: http://www.igigi.com/plus-size-bridal-collection/charming-romance-wedding-gown.html
Beware of corest backs – it pulls you in, but spillage over the top can occur.
Post # 15
I would definitely do a V neck and sleeves, they don’t have to be long sleeves, but sleeves for sure. very flattering!
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