Post # 1
Looking for some advice from the women on this board. I figured this would be a good place to ask.
I just got back from my bachelor party which was in Vegas. The party started Friday night and finished up Sunday night. We’re on the east coast so Friday and Monday was pretty much travel time, so in total, I was away for four days.
After getting back, my fiance basically said that she’s a little bummed that she wasn’t able to be part of such a fun and important experience in my life. She understands that she obviously couldn’t attend, but it still kind of sucks for her all the same, especially when this was really the first time we’ve been apart for so long in over a year or so. With all the wedding planning we’ve been doing over the last year, there hasn’t really been a weekend where we haven’t been together.
I definitely understand where she’s coming from. She missed me a lot, and she spent the whole weekend by herself and didn’t go out with any of her girlfriends since no one was really available. Any suggestions on how I can help her deal with this? Has anyone else felt this way? Her bachelorette party is this weekend, so I feel like I just have to help her get through the next couple of days.
Post # 3
OH goodness, my husband went to a friends 3-day destination bachelor party right after giving me the flu. I was so sick I almost had to go to the hospital. We don’t have any family in the city we live in so I was really all alone and it was scary. I knew it wasn’t his fault, he didn’t mean to get me sick and the trip had been planned for a long time with my OK. But I was still really upset about teh whole thing and to be honest I’m still not 100% over it. It just sux being apart for so long, especially when you know the other person is getting totally wild every minute with a big group of friends. If I were you, I would just encourage her to have a great time this weekend, help her pack and pick out an outfit.
Post # 4
@TheGroom2B: I think that she’ll get over it and should. Hers is coming up and she’ll be having fun, just as you were. If you’re still worried about it….maybe plan a date night for the two of you after she gets back from her party.
Post # 5
I think @PrncssDva: has a great Idea! Plan a great date night for the two of you after she gets back!
Post # 6
I bet after she has hers she’ll be less bummed about it. It’s kind of boring to hang around your house by yourself all weekend when you know your FI is off doing something fun but I’d say just plan a date for the two of you (for some TLC) and then wish her a good time this weekend.
Post # 7
Thanks for the advice everyone! That’s a great idea. I think I’ll take her out on a sushi date night.
Also, in case any women are wondering, and to give some of you some peace of mind, I found that it’s totally different being the bachelor at your bachelor party. I did talk to a lot of women when us guys went out, but every single one of my conversations was about my fiance, my wedding, how I proposed, all that stuff that you girls love to ask about. This might just be my case, but the funny thing is, I enjoyed talking about it!
Post # 8
I really thought you were my FI writing this!!! This happened to me – I was bummed that I wasnt a part of such an amazing experience. Well the days after FI got back he made sure to do things to make me happy. We went out on several dates, he had sent me flowers while he was in Vegas and we talked about all the things we are looking forward. While Im still a little jealous that he got to do something like that and that he had an experience like that that I will never get to share with him…time has made things a lot better! I promise she will get over it and everything will be fine! Just be extra nice to her right now!
Post # 9
@TheGroom2B: are you my fiance?? He is the exact same way. Other people always tell me that he is annoying to go out with because all he ever talks about is me!! haha you should tell this to your fiancee she will like to hear it!