Post # 1
Hi. We started with a new couples counselor this week. I think it is going to be more helpful than the counseling we got last year.
I finally have some vacation time at my job. I asked BF what he would like us to do in a week off together. He said he can’t imagine spending an entire week together and getting along well. Our relationship has been rocky for a while, and I also think it would be difficult to spend a whole week together. I pretty much knew he would say this, but it still hurt.
I am planning to visit my daughter in Toronto for my first week of vacation (we live in Oregon). This would probably be early summer. I may or may not take BF, depending on how our relationship is going. The second week, which I can take in the fall, I have a free one week vacation trip coming to me from my work. I want to be able to take BF, but we’ll see how our relationship is going.
These would be my first vacations in 12 years (I’m 50). So, I am going to plan versions of each for just me and for us. That way I’ll be prepared either way. Thanks for listening girls!
Post # 3
Wow- I am sorry he doesn’t want to spend your whole vacation with you but I hope your absence makes his heart grow fonder.
Good luck and I hope the counseling works!!!
Post # 4
Whew – glad to see another 40+ on here. I was afraid I was the onlly one. I’ll be 49 in April. Good luck withe couples counseling. I hate that you’re going through this trouble in your relationship. But, counseling often helps and at least he’s willing to go. That shows commitment.
I have vacation struggles too. In case misery loves company…. I changed jobs about a year ago because my current job was wrecking my health. I had to give up money and vacation time to do it. I only get 10 days a year BUT that includes holidays. I work for a retailer in the corporate office and they think if the store is open, we have to be open. which is ludiccrous. Nonetheless, they only close Christmas Day and Thanksgiving Day. AND, I have to take those as 2 out of my 10 days. It’s awful, but the job is much better for me. My SO has 4 weeks paid time off…so it’s problematic. He does spend the entire week with me. Last year we went to Key West and then to Disney. I don’t think I’ll be getting a vacation this year…meaning, we won’t be going anywhere. We’re moving in together and there are expenses.
However, he will go with his sister and her family. I’m invited but I don’t really want to spend my precious few days off with his family. That’s a story for another day – if you’ve got hours. LOL!
anyway – hang in there. So glad that you’re 50!!! smiles and hugs.
Post # 5
Good for you for going on your first vacations in 12 years! That’s great you’re going to see your daughter. For the 2nd week I think it is good you are planning versions for just you and for the two of you. I’d say pay attention to what sounds more *fun* as you get closer to the date….sometimes a vacation alone, no family or BF, can be incredibly uplifting.