- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
This is both our second marriages, Fiance and I have decided that pretty much nothing about our wedding will be traditional- except having wedding rings. We keep tentativly setting dates, but really what we want to do is buy our wedding rings, get a 90 day wedding licence (and renue it every three months till needed, lol) stick it all in an “emergency wedding kit” that we keep with us, and make it official at the spur of the moment, when the time feels right.
I’ve been given an open ended “please get what ring you really want” from my sweetie. Not saying money is no object (we do have five chidren afterall) but since rings are our only real wedding expense, I’m not looking to cut any corners in that department. After trying on 143,267 beautiful diamond wedding bands, I’ve decided what I really want- a thin, no stone plain band. We lead a very busy, active life. I know a ring with stones is simply not going to hold up, and I don’t plan on ever taking it off.
So i reset my beautiful diamond in a 3mm palladium band, with the idea of matching it with a plain, comfort fit domed palladium band. I ordered a 3mm stainless steel band just to be sure it’s what I want. When I tried it on, it hit me like a ton of bricks.
This is exactly the same ring as my first marriage.
Ok, maybe not quite exactly- my first ring was 4mm comfort fit platinum, this one would be 3mm comfort fit palladium..but really, it looks just like my old ring. This doesn’t bother my hunny at all, he could care less. “Once I put a ring on your finger, and you become my wife, a twist tie will hold the exact same meaning as a diamond band” But for me…I dont’ know, I can’t help feeling it’s weird to look at my hand and see the same ring. (although clearly, it’s what I like)
So I feel like I’m back to the drawing board, so to speak. I still want a heavy 3mm palladium ring, simple, without stones. Milgrain maybe? (I had thought about this before) maybe something lightly etched? Edwardian style? Ug. I don’t know, I feel discouraged. Maybe you lovely bees could link me to some ideas to get my creative juices flowing again. For reference, here’s my ring (in case I haven’t spammed it here enough) The prongs are pretty high, so I’m not worried about a large gap with a straight band, not that I need it to sit flush anyways. Help me girls!