- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
I for one, find it in poor taste, and from the begining adhered to ettiquite in this respect. I sent out my invitations, without the cards (I have them, but am reserving them for when my MoH needs them for the bridal shower) and without a second thought.
My inviations went out a little over a week ago and I’m already catching TONS of flack for NOT including this information. I have family members and family friends from seattle to texas complaining about it to my mother, grandmother, etc.
I did have links to my registry on my website, and a note on one of my inserts that said for more info please visit “blablahbla.com”. I’d say the majority of the complains emminate from Texas, many of them the latino side of my family. I realize I probably should have taken into account cultural variations. I did take note than in Mexico (where I’m getting married) it’s dang near taboo not to include this information….and considering the proximity tothe border, It would appear that including your registry information in your invitations is acceptable, and the consensus among my southern relatives, friends, family friends….most of whom are 2nd 3rd generation american.
BUT it seems this feeling is also present in my home state, in the good old northwest. The feeling isn’t as “angry” as it is down south…but more of “why not?…okay then can I get that info now?”
I am having a hometown reception scheduled one moth after our wedding in mexico..I’m seriously considering putting them in the hometown reception invitations, so that I dont have to hear all these gripes. Another reason I felt like I shouldn’t include these was because I was having a DW, and I didn’t want people to feel like I expect a gift, given the cost of travel.
I dunno yet.. thinking subjectivley, I’m never personally offended when I get an invitation with a registry card. I don’t feel obligated and I’m always happy to buy something from the registry…however I find it classier when the inviation doesn’t include all these little cards….and I don’t feel put out by simply asking the bride or groom where they are registered.
On the objective side, there’s no black and white when it comes to the rules of ettiquite… it’s obviously considered poor taste by some, but I’m wondering if this feeling comes more from one region of the US and not others. but this really seems like a no win situation.
Does anyone agree?