Post # 1
Ever since the beginnning of my engagement, my mom had said that she will pay for my dress as long as it is a ballgown. I know it was her dream to see me in a ballgown so I complied without thinking about it. After a long search, I finally settled on a dress, pictured below. I picked it because I was tired for looking for dresses and because I knew it would make my mom happy. The dress total is $4,000.00 which I have already paid $1,000 of the deposit. I really like it but now more and more, I feel dress regret. I feel sad that I never got to try on a form fitting mermaid or a smaller a-line. I could’ve afforded my own dress if I needed to, money isn’t too much of a problem for me so I feel silly because I only considered what my mom wanted. I am not feeling the dress anymore. I am 5’0 and I feel like this dress is just eating me up. Plus there are these awkward ruffles on the back of the dress. I feel hopeless. The wedding is March so I am out of time. I feel sad about the money I spent on something I am don’t feel 100% about. I feel so upset. I am on the verge of asking my fiance what he thinks, but I don’t want to risk any “bad luck”. Bees, what should I do…?
Post # 3
you can always try preowned dresses, or wear that dress for the ceremony and a new dress for the reception 🙂
Post # 4
@Jacqui90: Good idea! Wear that one for the ceremony and for your mother, and wear the one you want (mermaid, A-line) for the reception!
Post # 5
It is a beautiful dress, but I agree that the dress seems bigger than you are! And the bodice doesn’t seem to fit quite right. Do you think you would feel comfortable taking a trusted friend looking at dresses with you and getting a feel for what you really like, then bringing it up with your mum? Of course, depending on your relationship with her, you may feel comfortable just saying it to her now.
If you’re not happy with the dress, or regret that you didn’t get a chance to try on anything you liked, then I really think you should at least look into what else is available before committing more to this dress.
Post # 6
It does look like a whole lotta dress….
I second the notion of getting a more form fitting reception dress of your choosing.
Post # 7
You look like a Princess!
I love your dress! I feel like you can wear a tighter fitting dress on many other occasions but this ball-gown is wedding worthy!
The suggestion of wearing a second reception dress is also a good idea.
Post # 9
@Blush.Champagne: Thank you! I appreciate your kind words, that makes me feel a lot better.
@LadyElva: I am so petite and I think its too much dress. I look ridiculous… I have a feeling I’m going to where I bought it and see if they can put the $1000 towards another dress. Sigh…
Post # 10
Well, 1st of all – the dress obviously hasn’t been fitted to you yet. That will make a HUGE difference and once the bodice is sized and altered properly it will really highlight how tiny your figure is. You’d look absolutely gorgeous.
Post # 11
How about a ceremony dress then switch into a reception dress?
Post # 12
Whatever you decide, you look absolutely stunning in the ballgown 🙂
Post # 13
Have you considered having it made? [link removed due to self promotion]
Post # 14
I loved what the other brides said! Would you be able to wear it for the cerimony and then looked into preownedweddingdress for a dress more your style for the reception? This way you have the best of both worlds!
The main thing is that YOU need to feel beautiful and comfortable. It’s your special day with your future husband’s to be; not anyone else’s.
Post # 15
In your post, you had mentioned that you may have liked a slimmer a-line. What if you got them to take some layers of crinoline out of this gown? That would give it more of an a-line appearance and then it wouldn’t be so overwhelming on your petite frame. Just an idea…
But truly, you will look beautiful no matter what you wear! Good luck!!
Post # 16
@claireos: +1! Get it fitted to YOU. I can tell it’s not zipped all the way in the back. You look awesome and I don’t think it is overwhelming on you at all.
Post # 17
I think the dress will flatter you very well once its the right size. these pictures are clearly of the sample dress, which is way too big. You have a perfect frame for the ballgown dress.