Post # 1
I think some of you will remember my recent post (think it was 2 weeks ago) about my SO moving the goals again and basically saying he wasn’t planning on giving me the engagement ring we bought.
The post can be found here: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/bad-bad-waiting-day
I thought you might like a wee update after all your wonderful support. We’re still together at present BUT I am actively starting to stand on my own two feet – applying for better jobs, starting new hobbies, and improving my physical health. I feel better already despite this being small steps – it’s hard when you live with someone to just leave so I’m giving it til the start of the new year – figure that gives us both time to sort out finances, accommodation etc.
I hope you don’t think badly of me for giving it time but I believe too much in marriage etc and working through probs to just leave. BUT I am firm in my deadline and the deadline is NOT for a ring – it’s simply as I say above – time for us to adjust and separate our lives again so that it’s mutual and not done out of anger or anything.
Just wanted to let you all know I am doing well and to say thanks again for all the support, you never know, I may be back on the boards some day 🙂
Bye guys xx
Post # 3
Good luck!!! I’m so proud of you for taking care of yourself. It is so rewarding, and there is nothing more attractive than a fierce, independent woman 🙂
Post # 4
@Scottish_lassie: Really proud of you for not settling for something that isn’t what you want. If it was me, and I knew it was over, I’d want to go ahead and get out, but only you know what works best for you. Hope to see you around.
Post # 5
Deleted…wrong original post. 🙁 sorry…
Post # 6
I am happy for you that you are takign things at your speed and taking care of you 🙂
Post # 7
proud of you 🙂 everything will work out for the best im sure of it!
Post # 8
You said previously that you aren’t in a financial situation to move out and your mum lives too far away, so I totally understand why you can’t just leave him. It must be tough though, to realise the relationship isn’t going anywhere and yet be unable to leave? I may be facing a similar situation in about a year – if my SO doesn’t propose by my deadline I can’t actually afford to leave him. I’m praying that he’ll propose and the situation won’t arise.
Anyway, good luck with everything. I hope you manage to move on somehow, or that he realises his mistake and you don’t have to.
Post # 10
Good luck girl, we’re all here for you.
Post # 11
You’re always welcome on here, and please keep us updated on how you’re doing. I’m happy for you that you’re taking steps to become more independent and taking control of your life. I fully believe you’ll be happier for it! Good luck!
Post # 12
I’ve only just seen this.
Hope you’re doing ok, girl. You go get your dream xxx
Post # 13
Sounds like fabulous advice for me to follow…I keep putting off getting back in the gym and not to metion getting back to my hobbys after my daughter was born but think focusing on me for a change, not the SO and my daughter 24/7 could give me some clarity. Getting back to me! thx for the inspiration!