(Closed) Bad day

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
2254 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@givemecouture:  I’m sorry you’re going through all this. I hope your dad is ok. I’m sure the scary news doesn’t help all the other things piling up. As for your venue, don’t worry. Something will turn up. If it doesn’t, there are ways to work around a venue that is not 100% ideal with draping and decorations. Lastly, with everyone making and breaking plans with you, why not make plans with only yourself. Go do something for you. A little alone time to decompress may be the thing you need. Go get a facial or massage. Pick up a hobby. Have a good cleansing cry. Anything.

Post # 4
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3249 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@givemecouture:  Oh, gosh, that is a truly wretched day. I’m sorry things are so stressful for you, and I really hope your dad doesn’t have cancer.

I have followed your story a bit– I really don’t get why your SO hasn’t proposed yet since he said he wanted to over the holidays, but couldn’t because of “stealing someone’s thunder”– at least if I remember correctly?? If he has the ring and wanted to do it so badly then, I would think he has some plan now, which he is waiting to fulfill. But I am dismayed for you at how complicated and just bad this whole process has been. 

I totally get the annoying SO-doing-random-boy-stuff-and-not-doing-chores-or-spending-quality-time thing goes. I hate it when that happens too. Maybe ask him to be better about helping out on his days off, and also let him know that you need to know ahead of time what he’s planning to do if you’re going to stay home specifically to be with him, so he doesn’t do the poker until 1:30 AM thing again after you’ve turned down girl time with friends. Those two things by themselves would have me flying off the handle and setting some boundaries, but that’s me.

If he doesn’t propose on your vacation, you have EVERY RIGHT to totally freak out and tell him exactly how you feel about all this. He’s your partner, he should know at some point what he’s putting you through. Grr. I have some of the same angry/resentful feelings sometimes, so I can understand to some extent how you feel.

How about some good intense exercise to blow off steam? I just started exercising a lot– it sure helps with stress and self-image. 

Oh, I really hope for you that your SO will just propose already, darn it!!

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