Post # 1
My fiancé and I are friends with a couple that is getting married Saturday. This bride has committed one etiquette no-no after another. First, we received our Save the Date 2 months before wedding with my name completely misspelled. Second, we received invitations 4 weeks before the wedding with my name completely misspelled again. On the invitation they listed not 1 but FIVE different registries. The RSVP envelope had no postage attached to it. And lastly, she sent me a text message 2 days BEFORE the RSVP deadline saying she needed to know if we were coming or not. This was a personal reminder of what NOT to do during my own planning!
Post # 3
@mrsdfarrar6714: Oh man… That’s crazy. How can you be friends with someone and not know how to spell their name? :/ At least you know what NOT to do! 🙂
Post # 4
@mrsdfarrar6714: Oh man. Misspelling your name is just insane. The other stuff is super annoying, but maybe she just doesn’t have anyone to tell her how to do it right. Poor girl, she’s probably pissing people off left & right and doesn’t even know it!
Post # 5
I would be SO excited to see the total mess her wedding is going to be!
Post # 6
@mrsdfarrar6714: I always feel bad for people like this. They must have no idea about weddings. However, even if she doesn’t know anything about weddings, she should know how to spell your name.
Post # 7
@mrsdfarrar6714: I just experienced this with a friend! Some people….
Post # 8
My name was spelled wrong on a STD. I didn’t correct it. It was spelled wrong again on the invitation, so if I were to get mad about it at that point, it should have been at me. But my name is commonly misspelled, so I didn’t care enough to point it out.
But a non-stamped RSVP and saying she needed numbers before the deadline? That would annoy me.
Post # 9
I used RSVP cards and attached postage for the convenience of my guests. But believe it or not, it’s NOT against etiquette not to provide the means for a response. It’s only because so many people are rude that people have resorted to it. The onus is always on the person who receives an invitation to respond. Traditionally, that was on one’s own personal stationery. Some people still respond that way. But it is not rude not to spoon feed your guests in this fashion as long as you are OK with the fact that most people will be too rude or lazy to reply.