- 2 years ago
- Wedding: November 2014
I’m a regular bee, but I’m posting this anonymously. There was another post that got me thinking about something that happened a few months ago with my fiance. The issue is that he’s slandered me.
It all started with a very bad fight. We were out at a bar with his two best male friends. I got back from the bathroom and overheard him discussing very personal details about our sex life. When I asked him to stop (not so nicely), he called my the c-word.
I was so appalled that I gave him back the ring, told him the wedding was off, and stormed off then and there.
We didn’t talk for a week. He tried to call me, but I refused to take his calls. Frankly, I refused to take anyone’s calls. A friend of mine, not a particularly close one, let’s call her Sara, kept calling me like a maniac. I assumed she wanted to hang out, but I didn’t feel like talking to her. The only people who knew what had happened on my end were my mother and my sister. I didn’t even tell my best friend.
I was depressed about the situation and I did need some time to think. We’ve been together for three years, but it was long distance for two of those years. He had never treated me that way before.
He begged me to forgive him and showed up at my place with flowers and tickets to the opera (something I love, but he hates).
This was our first big fight ever, so I decided to forgive him. Unfortunately, the story doesn’t end there.
About a month after all of this happened, Sara called me again and said we had to talk. I agreed to meet her for brunch. Apparently, my fiance had called Sara on the night of our fight and told her I was suicidal! Sara played the message, so she wasn’t lying.
I can’t understand why my fiance would call Sara. I don’t know how my fiance had her number. They’ve only met a few times and she’s married. Plus, like I said, I’m not close with Sara. We’ve been in the same circle since college, but we have never been tight. My fiance knew that I didn’t particularly like her. And I must admit that I’m glad she told me about everything, but she did it with glee.
Why would my fiance bring my acquaintance into our argument? Why would he tell her I was suicidal?
I’m not sure about what I should do. We haven’t had any major fights since, but I don’t feel safe. First he’s off telling his friends about our sex lives and then he’s off telling my acquaintance that I want to kill myself.
I don’t think I can trust him. Any thoughts?