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I'm sorry you don't have many girlfriends, but you certaintly don't need those three! They aren't acting like friends to you at all. I wouldn't invite any of them to the wedding. They don't seem to me like the type of people that would be happy to help you and your FI celebrate your big day.
Yeah, I think you should confront them, and be adult about it. They might not be able to handle it and you might not be friends anymore, but it might be worth saving the friendship. I'd send them ALL a slightly different email, pointing out the fun times you've had and wondering if there's any way that, despite the differences in the past few months that have happened, you could all find a way to stay close friends by email/text/whatever. Their responses will tell you everything you want to know: 1. if they're pretty defensive, you know they're not going to make this easy so you're probably best to leave it alone. 2. if they're willing to work on it, you win--you can keep your friends.
Good luck!
Awww... that really sucks and I'm sorry you're getting the cold shoulder from your used-to-be best friends. Unfortunately, it's been my experience, that when you are friends with someone and then they, or you, move away, unless BOTH people put forth the effort to keep the connection, it can fizzle out entirely. I've had this happen too, and it really does hurt and make you wonder what all those years spent and memories made are worth now? IMO, it sounds like you are doing your part in trying to stay in touch but they are not putting out any effort, and for that they are not true friends.
It's no fun at all :( But take comfort in the fact that other people have been through this as well!
Ok, just have an update vent. My "friends" are now planning a DC weekend (I live in MD, one of them is in grad school in DC) and I am not invited. All the plans are all over Facebook (the root of so many evils, I know) and it is totally rubbing me the wrong way. The DC weekend is in 2 weeks, so is it wrong of me to think: If I don't get an invite to DC weekend, they don't get an invite to the wedding?
Sorry, I know this isn't even a real question, I feel bad for venting to my FI. He listens but he's hated them for awhile lol. Thanks bees!
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So all through college I lived with three girls and we were really close. Ever since we graduated two and a half years ago, we haven't been as close but the three of them have remained close since they all live in the same town and I moved back home after college. We lived in the same building as FI's childhood friends our senior year so my friends are all good friends with his friends.
I have tried to keep in touch with them but nothing I do seems to work. I send emails, texts, facebook messages and call and get very little response in return. So over the past year I have pretty much given up. It really hurts my feelings that they seem to be BFFs with FI's friends who they have only known 3 years but not give a damn about me when we have known each other for 7 years. Honestly, every time I would come to town to visit and ask them to go to a bar I wanted to go to they would either shoot me down completely or wait until FI's friends said they were going to go and then they would agree to come. Totally annoying.
This past week was AWFUL. They have been planning for NYE and one of the girl's bdays in January in AC. They had been sending email chains about it and I wasn't able to respond since I was in the middle of a hellish finals week. Once I was done with finals, I sent them an email apologizing for not answering and explaining about the horrible finals experience and the money drama FI and I are in the midst of (another long story). I told them everything was totally up in the air for me but I knew for sure I wouldn't be able to come for NYE. I got responses back saying, "Oh that sucks. But you're still coming to AC right?" Nothing about how bad they felt for me or asking me about how I was feeling about anything.
Then this weekend, my FI and I made a last minute trip to my college town to visit his parents for Christmas and go to a football game with our best man. I let them know I was coming and the plans for Saturday night (we were going out for one of FI's friend's bdays). I didn't hear anything in response from them. They showed up at the bar and gave me a quick hi and wave and that's it. They stayed to themselves and didn't make any effort to come talk to me. I was drunk and upset so I started to cry but I couldn't bring myself to say anything to them. So we left. And I haven't heard anything from them but I heard via FI's friends that they are mad at ME for ignoring THEM! They are like a little high school clique and I can't deal with it anymore!!
Anyway, should I confront them about their behavior? At this point, I don't even know if I want to invite them to the wedding, but I don't want to deal with the drama from them or FI's friends if I don't. I don't have many girl friends so I feel super lonely and I hate that they are making me feel this way. At least I have the hive!!