- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2011
I had my first hair and makeup trial this evening, which I was really excited about, esp. since I had a party to go to afterward and was stoked about showing up looking good. I went to a person that my mom goes to for her highlights, at a salon I used to go to, because she told me he does bridal hair & makeup. I thought – great! I even have my veil (a custom double layer tulle/netting birdcage) and hairpiece so I thought I was all set to finally find a style that would work.
But…sadly, there’s a but. Of the things that could possibly stress me out most when it comes to the wedding, beyond finances, the biggest stress lurking in the back of my mind is what to do w/my hair. I have two things working against me at the moment: First, my hair is super super curly (somewhere between kinky and semi-tight corkscrews) and despite the fact that when stretched out it comes to my shoulders, it’s pretty short. The second thing is that my dress is strapless and though it looks good on me, I have broad shoulders, a longish neck and a proportionally smaller head, so it leaves a lot of empty real estate (even if I got a chunkier necklace). I wear my hair pretty much the same every day (see below) and I love it, but I would like a different look for the wedding.
I would like my curls to be looser (to show the length more and at least try to fill in that space between my ears and shoulders), but I’m getting married in July in NY (hot and humid) so heat straightening – blow dry and flatiron – won’t work because it will revert and potentially frizz up no matter what I do. Short of relaxing it or doing something similar, which I won’t do, I’ve never known of any other options.
I brought these conerns to my stylist, and he basically said that he preferred to work with my natural curl and that my only other options would be extensions or a press & curl type deal, which he felt wouldn’t hold because of the weather and couldn’t attempt do then and there because that’s not his thing (he has “a guy that does that”). Then he went to work. He had someone condition it and put metal clips on the ends to weigh it down & stretch out the curls while it dried. Fine. While my hair was finishing drying, he did the makeup. Except that he didn’t even clean my face first (even at Sephora, they pat your face down with some toner!) and he didn’t really do a full application – just put foundation on my t-zone and focused on my eyes – even though he intends to do airbrush on the day of the wedding.
Once my makeup was done, he started to style my hair. To get the length I wanted, he suggested that I get clip in extensions but would do his best to simulate what he might do with my own hair. I brought photos of what styles I wanted, and he didn’t really do anything close to that, except that he got stuck on the veils that were in the photos. He put in my hair accessory and attempted my veil and after going on and on about how both were “too much” for me, he said they wouldn’t work and that I’d have to have someone totally redo my veil. He said the veil was too big for my head (mostly because the tulle was really stiff and he couldn’t flatten it), and to make it look good, I’d have to have someone remove the tulle, cut the netting down smaller, remove the flower from it’s separate comb and have it resewn/attached to the veil. At which point, I’d rather just buy a new one. I had actually put my veil and accessory in may hair myself to play around with the look after I bought it, and was able to make it not be so poufy, but he couldn’t see how to do that. He didn’t even attempt to style my hair after all that so it at least looked decent enough for me to go out afterwards. It was stringy, frizzy, lackluster and basically all I could do with it was put it in a ponytail.
And then the bill came: $300!! I know this is NYC, but from the rates of other hair & make-up people I had seen, this was a little less than double what other people seem to charge – the most expensive I’d seen was $200 for both a hair and makeup trial, so that is what I budgeted. I know I probably should have asked what it was going cost first, but given my research and the fact that my mom was referring me to him, I would not in my wildest dreams have expecting to pay $300 for a trial. Also, having gone to this salon in the past, I know that they don’t even charge over $130 for a cut & style with a senior person and I wasn’t having any of that done. And even I if I decided to book him, I wouldn’t even be getting any of this money credited toward my wedding day services.
I basically had a meltdown at the end of the evening because I felt like I looked horrible, which I expressed to him. Aside from the makeup looking good (though already starting to melt off and I was getting shiny), my hair looked better when I walked in than when I left. I *still* have no idea what I can/should do with my hair. Even if I went with extensions (which I wouldn’t have a problem with necessarily), the style he went with didn’t even look good and he didn’t attempt do more that one. All he could offer is that if I did what he suggested, he could make something work. I’m not so much upset about spending $300 or having the stylist tell me his honest opinion, as I am about spending $300 (that I couldn’t really afford to spend) for hair/makeup trial, $80 for hair pieces that apparently don’t work and don’t look good, and I’m in the same boat I was in before I walked into the salon – no hairstyle I like and stressed out.
I have another trial scheduled for next Saturday, which I will probably end up having to reschedule because I now don’t have the money, and I don’t want to deal with this two weekends in a row without having a plan b. I have looked and looked but have not really found any photos of women who have my hair type and the kind of veil I have. What I brought was all I could find. I know I shouldn’t let this one person get to me, and I realize these were all suggestions and opinions, but I am just so upset that I shelled out this kind of money for practically nothing in return.
Has anyone else had a bad experience doing trials? What did you do to recover? I can obviously show the next person what I DON’T want. But if what I do want isn’t really possible, than how I communicate what I want?
Thanks for reading my crazy long vent!