(Closed) Bad hair trail… what should I do?

posted 7 years ago in Beauty
Post # 3
24 posts
  • Wedding: April 2011

Well I can relate because I also had a disappointing hair/makeup trial today! Although mine was cheap in comparison to yours ($85 for hair, $65 for makeup). It sucks when you feel like you could do your makeup better yourself. Also sucks when they can’t get the hair just right.

At least you have plenty of time before your July wedding…if you took pictures you can show them to the next stylists to point out exactly what you don’t want. I don’t really have any advice other than I empathize with you- it sucks to have to keep trying new stylists!

Post # 4
4137 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

he sounds like kind of a diva. you need someone to do your hair however you want it (not say “i’m not that kind of guy”). also, you could position the veil correctly but he couldn’t? come on. 

look at reviews online and ask your photographer for referrals. i hope you have better luck next time!

Post # 5
432 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

He sounds like an over-paid pompous ass. “I have a guy for that”? Are you freaking kidding me? You’re the client, you are paying for a service, his J-O-B is to provide you service (within reason). I wouldn’t think one would want to deal with someone who clearly can’t/won’t provide what  they in a way they find acceptable 🙁

Good luck with whomever you go with!


P.S- you have a wonderful smile 🙂

Post # 6
5758 posts
Bee Keeper

I hope you got some pictures of what he did so you can show someone else what not to do. He was pretty much being a jerk with not being concerned about your happiness, so did you say anything to him while he was doing things or did you watch him in the mirror and ask him to try anything else?

One of my daughter’s had a horrible hair trial, and when she sent me pictures, I couldn’t believe she liked it and told the stylist that. My other daughter (who is a stylist and was there the whole time) didn’t interupt or say anything either, as neither wanted to hurt her feelings. Once she saw the pictures they took, she realized how awful she looked, so she had a retrial and I told her to blame me for hating it! I went with her the second time and it was done beautifully, and the charge was just $50. (to be deducted on wedding day), so is your second trial with the same person? Can your Mom run interference for you?

I’m sorry you had such a bad time with this and are discouraged. I hope you find someone who is willing to work with you to make you truly happy for your wedding. Best of luck!

Post # 7
1750 posts
Buzzing bee

@Jaxx317:Was this a black stylist? I don’t see why it is so difficult for him to style your hair. Its regular curly black girl hair! I know immediately what style will fit what you are saying and would look good on the honeymoon. Have you ever had a straw set? The curls are set tight and the stylist pulls them out after you dry. Each little curl is divided into maybe two or three curls. The hair is big (to balance your head) and dramatic to fit your over the top veil. Screw him, I would cancel his check! Let me see if I could find a picture. Beyonce used to wear her hair like this years ago and I wore it too for about a month, I got compliments all the time.




Post # 8
1750 posts
Buzzing bee


Look at the straw sets on this link and the way they have them styled for inspiration. This would not cost you more than $100.00 in any black salon. I could not imagine paying $300.00 for hair and makeup. I could get this style done in Nashville for $40.00!!!!!! You can make it sexy and wild or cute and elegant whichever fits your personality. Also go to the MAC counter, they will do your makeup trail for free if you buy an item. The makeup looks good on sisters too. Good luck!!!

Post # 10
2103 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I definitely recommend a curly style done through: a straw set, roller set, (perm) rod set, flexirod set, etc. Your hair might sweat a little and it’s possible it could get a little frizzy, but if you’re using good products, then you should be fine.

And check out the Dominican hair salons. Be careful, though. Some women have complained about heat damage (if you’re thinking of getting your hair straightened).

What I recommend is just researching salons and checking them out. You can learn a lot by just talking to the stylist(s) and seeing if you hit it off before paying any money. Any good salon – black, white, or otherwise – should be able to give you a consultation.

You might also want to look up natural hair salons. They know how to work with natural, kinky, curly, coily hair textures. Sounds like your stylist may not have been that honest about his experience.

Anyway, good luck and let us know how the next trial(s) go!

Post # 13
7300 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

First-Find a black guy/girl or someone else who knows how to work with AA hair. Especially natural hair! That guy sounds like a douche! I love your hair! Very beautiful! You are better than me, because I wouldn’t have paid him if he didn’t do shit. 

Post # 14
654 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

First of all, I should say I’m sorry you had such a disappointing time at the salon.  Nobody should leave a salon upset – some girls buy shoes, I get my hair done.  Nothing like it! 

But really want I want to say (and I know you probably will ignore this lol) is that I think you should consider leaving your hair as it is for your wedding.  The photo you posted is so gorgeous and you look so natural and happy, and that’s how I think a bride should look.  Especially considering the weather, I worry that after all the fussing you do with your hair to fight its natural texture, it’s not going to end up being exactly what you hoped.  🙁  You’re so beautiful already, it sounds like it’s going to be a lot of work and a lot of money to change something that doesn’t need fixing anyway.

You’re totally right abuot the veil, though.  That guy should have done a lot better with it.  Definitely find someone more agreeable to do your next trial with.  Good luck!

Post # 15
2103 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@Jaxx317: Check out LongHairCareForum.com’s Salon Review. There’s a ton of reviews about area salons for black hair. You could even post asking if anyone knows of local, good salons. (There is a registration fee, though).

And if you’re interested in trying to do it on your own — which I recommend, so you know what’s in store at the salon — check YouTube for tutorials. There are so many for all different textures of hair. I’ve learned so much about my (natural) hair from websites like this.


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