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Are you planning on staying together the night before the wedding?
I'm a bit superstitious so we didn't but I know some friends that did.
I don't think it's bad luck but we aren't going to spend the night before the wedding together. I'm going to stay at a friends and he's going to stay at home. I think it will make the whole "first look" even more special!
In the past I believed in this but as I have grown up I am not as superstitious.
Because my parents house will be filled with some of our guests I really won't have a room designated to me and I am definitely not sleeping on an air mattress since they kill my back. Because of this I have been thinking about crashing with my FI the night before.
EDIT: If I choose to stay with my FI the night before, he won't see me again until I am all dressed. So he will still get the "first look".
I agree - we aren't going to be staying together but it's not because of the superstition. It's the "first look" factor. I just think spending that time apart will make it that much more exciting when I get to see him for the first time at the wedding. I get butterflies just thinking about it :)
I agree with tessabella. I also do not think it is bad luck. I just wanted to make that day so special. I loved the look on his face when he saw me for the very first time that day. I think it also makes the wedding night more special.
We kind of compromised on this. We stayed one floor apart in the same hotel (literally, our rooms were one on top of the other!). By around 11 p.m. the day before the wedding, I was completely and utterly exhausted. Before going to bed, I called my FI and just got him to come hold me for a little while, just so we could quietly "be" together. After no alone time for over a week, it was nice just to have that space to breathe and be calm. Then he left and I went to sleep, and it was probably good I was alone because I was just so worn out. And we had a very special "first look" the next day. That being said, I think the "look" would have been special regardless, since we were both so gussied up. :)
I am also a little <font face="Georgia" size="2">Superstitious </font>about staying together the night before- just an old tradition that has worn off on me :) I also agree I think it will make the first look at the wedding much more exciting :)
We're not going to stay together, but I don't think it's bad luck, especially since we've lived together for a couple years now (cat's out of the bag - shh) :)
We've lived together for a long time now and neither of us are very superstitious or overly-traditional people.
We're still going to get ready separetely on the day of though.
I don't think it is bad luck, but we are sleeping separately. We have lived together for 2 years and FI was SHOCKED that I did not want to stay with him the night before. He thought it was my mom's influence. In some ways I think it would be fun to stay togheter, but in other ways, I am a bit traditional and wanted him to be "surprised" when he sees me for the first time that day, walking down the aisle.
I'm pretty untraditional and not at all superstitious, so my fiance and I are spending the night together. We splurged at a really nice porch suite at our hotel for Friday and Saturday night! We've been living together for four years, so it seemed silly for us to spend the night apart, anyway. We're also ordering room service breakfast for the morning of our wedding and eating together on our porch. We know that day will be crazy, and we wanted one hour in the morning to ourselves to regroup, and reflect on how special that day will be. The wedding is about both of us getting married. It seemd weird to spend so much time apart!
We live together but we're going to be seperate the night before, I agree with everyone else it's not so much about the bad luck it's more about that first look when I come walking down the aisle.
I don't think it's bad luck, although I don't really believe in luck or superstitious things. We did spend the night separate, although it was more for logistical reasons. We were getting up much earlier in the morning to do hair/makeup, so it was easier for me to stay with my sister (MOH) and BM the night before.
I don't think it's bad luck. It can be fun to be separate, but we wanted to be together. We even got ready together before the wedding. For us, that was really special.
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I don't think it's bad luck, but we are separating, mostly because the wedding is in my hometown and it is most convenient that way - he is staying at the hotel with the guests and I am staying at my mom's where I will be getting ready in the morning. I can see it being good both ways - more anticipation for the first look or ceremony if you separate, but on the other hand I think it could be so fun to wake up together and say we're getting married today!
I also think I'll get more sleep alone. Together we might stay up talking and being excited!
I don't think it is bad luck, but I am excited about saying goodnight to him the night before our wedding, knowing that the next time we see each other it will be at opposite ends of the aisle! I love the idea of anticipating and preparing ourselves separately and then coming together.
I discussed this with FI and he said he doesn't want to be apart that night, we've slept together every night for 3 years except 1 night, and he said he doesn't want to spend his last night as a "single" man alone!!
I plan on getting up early and leaving to be with my girls til we have the first look though
as hubby & i eloped i never thought to seperate before the wedding. my then FI woke me up a little after midnight on the 23rd to tell me that "today is the day we get married"... insert "ohhhh" moment here as hes not very romantic at the best of times so i thought this was cute.
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I guess I meant to say I believe in the tradition of not seeing each other the day of the wedding - not that it's bad luck to stay the night together.
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Is it bad luck? No. Will we do it? I have no idea. If we are still living in our parents' houses like we are now, then no; BUT what we might do, if we're going to have our wedding in a campground, is camp out there for a couple days before and after as the honeymoon. =)
We will be spending the night together but I'll get up early in the morning and go to my mom's hotel room to get ready.
We're definitely staying at home in our own bed the night before. I just KNOW I won't sleep otherwise. We'll be getting ready separately though.
For some reason, I just think that that is one of the traditional things that I want to keep in tact for my wedding!
We'll be staying in the same hotel room together. We live about an hour from our venue, but we have friends and family who live in the area. Unfortunately, I don't picture either one of us staying on someone's couch the night before the wedding and I'm not shelling out another $100 so we can be in separate rooms. I may be spoiled and cheap, but at least I'll sleep well.
We slept together the night of. We had kind of planned to sleep separately, but then I was getting nervous that I wouldn't be able to sleep well if we did that (I have a hard time falling asleep without him. I just lay awake thinking about stuff, not even necessarily stuff about us or anything. for whatever reason, with him next to me though, my mind is at ease). I was soooo exhausted that night though with the rehearsal and finishing up last minute stuff that I probably would have conked out even without him, but we weren't really having that reveal moment when I walk down the aisle (doing pictures before), so it didn't matter. I made sure he was gone before I came back with my hair and makeup done though :)
We'll most likely stay together but part ways in the morning when we get ready separately.
We didn't, and my parents were shocked! I stayed in our house (with my family and a bridesmaid and her mom) and he stayed at his mom's house...my parents both said, "where is HE going to stay?!" like it was strange for us to separate! ha!
I was so tired and busy I probably would have been snappy with him anyways though so I was glad for the peace and quiet.
I don't think it is bad luck but I like the idea of it. We plan on parting ways the night before.
i like the tradition of not staying together the night before the wedding.. we will be in the same hotel though.
i don't think it's bad luck. but i think the suprise of seeing each other on the aisle for the first time that day will be so worth it. i imagine it will be the best feeling ever!
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I said "no" because I don't believe in luck, but I also don't believe in living/sleeping together before marriage, so we didn't!
I don't think it's bad luck at all - I would be so happy to wake up next to my FH and just have a few minutes of quiet time in bed together. However, I think that we've decided that I will stay in our hotel room with a few of my bridesmaids, and he will stay at our house with the friends from out of town who will be staying there. I think it will be such a fun night with some of my favorite girls. I might change my mind, though.
It's not bad luck, but it would kill the anticipation factor for me.
I wouldn't go so far as to say bad luck either....but I like the symbolism of spending that last one night apart as a single person. It really lets you mull over the decision you're making for yourself!
Our ceremony doesn't start until 7:30 pm so we haven't really decided yet...if we decide that both of us are going to sleep at our house and part ways in the morning, we still have the ENTIRE day of the wedding where we won't see eachother...so I don't think it will ruin the anticipation.
But, like I said, we haven't decided yet :)
I am starting to lean towards not being apart the night of. For one, we may have some guests stayingw ith us. Also, i can just as easily get up and be out of the house running errands and what not, check in to our hotel and get ready there. Its not completely decided yet. Another thing is, only two of my girls are single and would be able to stay with me if I did sleep somewhere else.
we're goign to stay together in a hotel room. my FI's mother will drive him crazy otherwise, this way I can calm him down :) We're doing rehearsal day of plus pics ahead of time, so I guess I'm throwing that all out the window!!
I would totally wig out if on the biggest day of my life so far my fiance was somewhere else. of course I'll be sleeping with him the night before! The first look of the wedding day will be of me in my pajamas with messy hair. :-)
We'll sleep apart the night before... I'm looking forward to the anticipation of our first looks :)
I don't think it's bad luck... I think being apart will just make it more special (for us).
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