Bad omen to wear heels named after fiance's ex on your wedding day?

posted 3 years ago in Shoes
  • poll: Would you wear a pair of shoes/heels named after your fiance's ex on your wedding day?
    No, I would feel strange about. : (47 votes)
    22 %
    Yes, I'd wear a pair named after his ex. : (92 votes)
    44 %
    His ex was/is a bit of a problem in our relationship. : (13 votes)
    6 %
    I don't have a bad experience with his ex/she isn't around. : (59 votes)
    28 %
  • Post # 3
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    1482 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC

    Re-name the shoes and forget about what they were called. Seriously its not weird although if its going to upset you, you should look elsewhere but I can barely remember what mine are called half the time, all i know is theyre badgley mischka pretty. 

     

    Post # 4
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    381 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Well, actually, regardless of what we would do, the important thing is that it would bother YOU. You don’t want anything bothering you on your day, and if you think this would be in the back of your mind, get another pair of shoes. I can’t imagine it would be impossible to find another pair that would work?

    And you aren’t crazy. When DH were trying to decide where to go on our honeymoon, I couldn’t bring myself to allow us to stay in a town where one of my exes used to live. It would have meant walking on the streets we had walked on, going to restaurants we had gone to. It just would have been all too weird. So against the opinion of DH and my mother, I requested we do our honeymoon elsewhere (this wasn’t like a big city, it was a small tourist town, so there were plenty of others to choose from). You just don’t want those memories there.

    Post # 5
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    478 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Ha at first I thought this post was a joke when I read the title.

    I don’t think it’s a bad omen, but no, I wouldn’t wear shoes that shared the same name as his ex. Ew!

    Post # 7
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    69 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I wouldn’t wear them.

    Our wedding colour is a sort of teal/peacock blue and one of our vendors suggested something in the colour ‘Jade’ and that’s his ex’s name. I just totally shot that down ha. I don’t want any reminder of her thank you very much! Its a bit trickier for him though… He has the same name as my ex, whom I was with for 4 years (we’re only 24 so quite significant) oh well! 

    Post # 8
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    64 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I wouldn’t. There’s something about it that irks me.

    Of course SO has had multiple ex-girlfriends, and there’s no crime against that, and I definitely don’t harbor ill feelings towards a person just because they so happen to date my fiance ages ago before we ever met. 

    But there is a girl that he used to work with and she kept actively trying to to catch his attention. Sending him non-work related emails, would flirt with him at company parties while I was there, and everyone in the office new about her crush on him. Finally one day she told him she liked him and said the ball was now in his court. Well, he took that ball and reported her to HR. She ended up getting fired for her inappropriate behavior. 

    Long story short, if there was a pair of heels that I liked and it shared her name I wouldn’t get them. Especially for my wedding day. Her name being brought up makes me angry. So, I’d rather start our journey together fresh without her on my mind.

    Post # 9
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    842 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I really hope you aren’t taking this seriously. It’s a pair of shoes and she’s in the past. This wouldn’t even occur to me. 

    Post # 11
    Member
    808 posts
    Busy bee

    I don’t even know the names of my fiance’s exs so I can’t say it’d bother me. If you love the shoes though and want to wear them, just be logical about it – there is no way your feet being in those shoes will influence the universe and make bad things happen!

    Post # 12
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    3407 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I would not even think of this.

    They are SHOES!

    Post # 13
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    2355 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    SO has three ex’s. One is a highschool girlfriend. One was a 6 month relationship that never got physical. I wouldn’t care about wearing shoes named after those two girls.

    His third ex was one he was engaged to a few years before he met me. It would definitely bother me since that was a very serious relationship ( or so he thought at the time.)

    Yes, it’s silly, but I don’t care.

    Post # 14
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    2826 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @petalpetal:  aww, i understand. yes, its a little silly, but so what. I was secretly refusing to honeymoon in a country where he vacationed with his ex (and where his daughters were conceived). Although I never said anythung, I’d always casually change the subject whenever he mentionedthat maybe we should go there after the wedding. 

    Post # 16
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    135 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I would rock those shoes! her name is on my feet…i’m dragging her name through dirt, all day long! How many times do you get to do that to your SO’s ex??? 

    I would however never buy a pair with a religious name, I remember Nike once had a pair named Jesus, I would never wear that on my feet! 

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