Post # 1
I’ve been looking for wedding heels and stumbled across a pair I really liked. This website names their shoes by female names. The name of this particular pair is the same name of my fiance’s ex-girlfriend.
I know it sounds silly, but that alone deterred me from buying these shoes. Maybe it’s different because this ex of his caused quite a bit of strife in the beginning of our relationship.
I couldn’t help, but think I’d maybe feel strange wearing a pair of heels on our wedding day with the same name as her. Like it was a bad omen or something, or that she was a part of my wedding day in some odd way. If I had been searching for heels to wear to a party/every day stuff I wouldn’t have thought twice about it.
It wasn’t even a very common name either, to where I can associate it with a lot of other people I know. Like Ashley, Amanda, or Elizabeth. I know tons of girls with those names.
This is such a random topic, I know. But it had me wondering…
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC
Re-name the shoes and forget about what they were called. Seriously its not weird although if its going to upset you, you should look elsewhere but I can barely remember what mine are called half the time, all i know is theyre badgley mischka pretty.
Post # 4
Well, actually, regardless of what we would do, the important thing is that it would bother YOU. You don’t want anything bothering you on your day, and if you think this would be in the back of your mind, get another pair of shoes. I can’t imagine it would be impossible to find another pair that would work?
And you aren’t crazy. When DH were trying to decide where to go on our honeymoon, I couldn’t bring myself to allow us to stay in a town where one of my exes used to live. It would have meant walking on the streets we had walked on, going to restaurants we had gone to. It just would have been all too weird. So against the opinion of DH and my mother, I requested we do our honeymoon elsewhere (this wasn’t like a big city, it was a small tourist town, so there were plenty of others to choose from). You just don’t want those memories there.
Post # 5
Ha at first I thought this post was a joke when I read the title.
I don’t think it’s a bad omen, but no, I wouldn’t wear shoes that shared the same name as his ex. Ew!
Post # 6
Well, the post was meant to be more light hearted. The last thing I will probably be thinking about is the name of my shoes. But I was curious is any other bees would have also not want anything associated with the ex. I guess I want to start off our lives as husband and wife fresh, without any past memories.
@giru618: That is a completely legitimate reason to not want to honeymoon somewhere. Even though you have obviously moved on I’m sure there are too many memories associated with that town to want to spend it with your husband.
Post # 7
I wouldn’t wear them.
Our wedding colour is a sort of teal/peacock blue and one of our vendors suggested something in the colour ‘Jade’ and that’s his ex’s name. I just totally shot that down ha. I don’t want any reminder of her thank you very much! Its a bit trickier for him though… He has the same name as my ex, whom I was with for 4 years (we’re only 24 so quite significant) oh well!
Post # 8
I wouldn’t. There’s something about it that irks me.
Of course SO has had multiple ex-girlfriends, and there’s no crime against that, and I definitely don’t harbor ill feelings towards a person just because they so happen to date my fiance ages ago before we ever met.
But there is a girl that he used to work with and she kept actively trying to to catch his attention. Sending him non-work related emails, would flirt with him at company parties while I was there, and everyone in the office new about her crush on him. Finally one day she told him she liked him and said the ball was now in his court. Well, he took that ball and reported her to HR. She ended up getting fired for her inappropriate behavior.
Long story short, if there was a pair of heels that I liked and it shared her name I wouldn’t get them. Especially for my wedding day. Her name being brought up makes me angry. So, I’d rather start our journey together fresh without her on my mind.
Post # 9
I really hope you aren’t taking this seriously. It’s a pair of shoes and she’s in the past. This wouldn’t even occur to me.
Post # 10
@TattedNYBride: Please refer to the line where I wrote this was meant to be a light hearted post.
Post # 11
I don’t even know the names of my fiance’s exs so I can’t say it’d bother me. If you love the shoes though and want to wear them, just be logical about it – there is no way your feet being in those shoes will influence the universe and make bad things happen!
Post # 12
I would not even think of this.
They are SHOES!
Post # 13
SO has three ex’s. One is a highschool girlfriend. One was a 6 month relationship that never got physical. I wouldn’t care about wearing shoes named after those two girls.
His third ex was one he was engaged to a few years before he met me. It would definitely bother me since that was a very serious relationship ( or so he thought at the time.)
Yes, it’s silly, but I don’t care.
Post # 14
@petalpetal: aww, i understand. yes, its a little silly, but so what. I was secretly refusing to honeymoon in a country where he vacationed with his ex (and where his daughters were conceived). Although I never said anythung, I’d always casually change the subject whenever he mentionedthat maybe we should go there after the wedding.
Post # 15
@Overjoyed: Oh, wow. Yeah, I also totally understand why you wouldn’t want to honeymoon somewhere they vacationed/conceived. Yours is obviously a much more substantial reason than my silly stuff about shoes. Where does he want to honeymoon?
Post # 16
I would rock those shoes! her name is on my feet…i’m dragging her name through dirt, all day long! How many times do you get to do that to your SO’s ex???
I would however never buy a pair with a religious name, I remember Nike once had a pair named Jesus, I would never wear that on my feet!