Post # 1
Hi hive, first time poster – long time reader.
FI and I found a place that we both like for the ceremony/reception. Its a nice community hall that overlooks the mountains. If you are a resident of that city, the rental fee is slashed by half. I have a friend that lives in that city and she has already agreed to help me rent it using her name.
However, I’m starting to feel guilty of doing this. I wonder if I will run into any issues because she’s renting it under her name, but obviously on the wedding day she’s not the one getting married.
Has anyone rented a community hall for a wedding and have any feedback/insight on this? Your comments welcome.
Post # 3
I don’t see this being a huge problem. Just cut her a check for the amount of the rental fee and have her pay it using her name. Then whatever she chooses to do with the space, having technically paid for it and rented it herself, is not really any of their business.
Post # 4
If it were a close friend, I would do it. Anything to save you money, right?
But if it was someone you hardly knew and you were just doing it to “use them.” Then I would be hesitant in asking. Oh, if you do ask her… she is definitely being invited to the wedding.
Post # 5
My aunt did this for our wedding venue. It wasn’t an issue at all. We were even up front with the venue coordinator about the situation and she said it was fine.
Post # 6
Since she’s already agreed to do it, I think it’s fine. It would indeed be ridiculous for you to have to pay full price when she could get you such a discount at no inconvenience to her. Don’t worry about it! Lots of friends want to help out when it comes to weddings, but we brides are afraid to ask.
Post # 7
If anything happens, she can claim to be hosting your wedding reception for you. I think it will be fine, and that it’s great you got to save so much money on the rental.
Post # 8
I think it’s a great idea and if she’s willing than I’m sure it will go off well. What a nice gesture on her part!
Post # 9
it sounds like you’re good to go. she’s agreed and it’s a friend so i wouldn’t worry about it. think of it this way, it’d be the same if she rented the venue to host a birthday party for someone else. that’s okay so it should be fine for a wedding.
Post # 10
I think it’s fine if the venue is okay with it—but double check that. There’s a very popular venue in the city next to ours that gives a steep discount for residents, and they are *very* explicit about who counts for the discount—no friends or relatives, just the bride or groom, etc. People do still try to use friends’ addresses, or pretend someone else is getting married, which can end unhappily.
So I’d say do it without a second thought if they have no issue with it, but if it’s against their policy, you might find it stressful to try to keep it under wraps. The added benefit if you’re upfront with the venue about it (and I love the friend-hosting-the-reception-for-you idea, since she *is* offering to help on that front!) is that you can call as yourself to talk with them, which you may need to do as you get further into planning.
Post # 11
Thanks everyone for the input! I’ll keep you ladies posted on how it works out if we end up going with that venue.
Post # 12
My cousin is getting married at the Fireman’s Center because her grandfather is a retired Fireman and gets to use the space for free. I think it is fine just make sure you get a copy of the contract and know what all is in it. Example, you have to fold up the chairs and store them in closest or take trash to dumpster. You just don’t want to not do those things and mess up her chances to book again.
Post # 13
- Wedding: August 2009 - Eastside Catholic Chapel and Lake Union Cafe
I think that as long as she offered, it’s fine. Things like this happen a lot (friend’s getting friend’s access to rooms) and I bet it’s not a huge deal.
Post # 14
I don’t think it’s an issue at all. The only thing is it’s just someone you trust enough and vice versa because the contract will be under their name. So anything happens it’s their name on the legal docs.
There were a couple awesome private schools that are housed in old mansions that I found that only allowed weddings by alumni. So if you knew someone who was you still could as long as the contract was in their name. I didn’t know anyone! 🙁
If you feel guilty maybe send her a small thank you gift since she is saving you and FI half the rental cost!
Post # 15
I think it is so nice of your friend to do this for you! Thank her and I would prob also get he a small gift too
Post # 16
I don’t see anything wrong with it.
I’m considering doing the same thing as we have found a local civic center that is just outside our “jurisdiction” and the price difference is HUGE. My only hesitation has been trusting that everyone will be respectful and responsibility for any damage is removed from our friend and placed in our hands. Then again, I’m also comforted with the fact that we don’t intend on inviting any party animals who might cause trouble…we’re expecting everyone to act in a respectful manner.
I agree with the suggestion of a small gift to show extra gratitude. What a nice gesture!