- 5 years ago
She got over it.
But now we are in another fight and I seriously do not know what to do this time. I am sick of giving her second chances and I do not know what is mentally wrong with her. Everyone in my family doesn’t understand why she gets all upset all the time.
She bought me a trip to vegas for my birthday next week, but instead of just me and my boyfriend going she is going as well. I did not mind, but asked her to book us a separate room. She refused because it was expensive. It is black friday weekend this week so I found crazy cheap prices for a room and I wanted to book it (with my own money) for her to use. She flipped out. She cancelled her flight ticket and transferred the room into my name. She wanted to stay in the room with me and my boyfriend. I tried to tell her the room was going to connect into hers, but she said no no no no.
She started screaming and crying that my boyfriend made me tell her to get her own room (not true he did not care one bit, only I had the problem!) She cusses him out, tells me I am stupid for dating him, and makes him into a horrible person when really he is the best thing that ever happened in my life.
I bought her a ticket to a Polish party near my university that my polish teacher was throwing, but she now refuses to go and made me waste my money. She said the only way she will go is if I do not go, and I have to because I am graded on it. She wanted me to choose between letting her go or me failing the assignment because good god she was no gonna let me go with her or be in the same room with me.
She then said I RUINED her Christmas trip (Vegas)…o.o which was MY birthday present not Christmas for her. She then got mad that I was going to my Dad’s house (they divorced, no surprise) for Christmas, when we already agreed she got Thanksgiving and he gets Christmas. She was helping me pay half for my dorm next semester but of course now she changed her mind and screwed me over, because it is expensive and I already signed the contract. -.- Second time she did this to me.
And she keeps calling me every few minutes to call me a bad daughter. This is the third birthday she ruined. The first one she came, got mad because I wanted to go out with my friend for my birthday night (we had spent the whole day before hand together!), so she ripped up my presents and took half the stuff in my dorm and went home. So I was left with out clothes (she also emptied my bank account).
The last birthday she did not talk to me, and sent me a package of cat food for my birthday (for my cat).
And now this year she is cussing me out and telling me I ruin all her holidays.
Can someone please help me out? What am I suppose to do about her? She makes me and my boyfriends life miserable? Everyone in my family loves him but her. She is a control freak. I feel bad for cutting her off because she is the master of guilt, but I am tired of being screamed at.
Any advice from someone who has dealt with a similar situation? I am scared that she will be like this forever! If it is this bad when I am dating, I am horrified to find out how she will act when I am married.