Post # 1
Just a quick morning vent –
I recieved an email on FB last night: "lost the invite, I’ll be there. I’ll eat whatever meal option you want"
Next, I just got a call at work from a friend of my Mom’s from College who I have not seen in 16 years!!!!!!!
"Hi yogigal gal, this is your mom’s annoying courtesy invite friend, I’m calling to find out when your wedding is" GASP. I didn’t think she would come 🙁
I said "Oh, wow, hi, how are you? Didn’t you get the invite?"
Annoying courtesy guest – "yes, I just can’t find it and want to put in my vacation time today, can’t wait to see you, I have been hearing so much about all the big fancy plans"
Seriously, I think next time all guests should get daily rsvp etiquette emails. I didn’t include the little forever stamp just to get bothered at work and it is not an event on facebook that you can click yes or no for!!!
Post # 3
Ugh. I don’t think people realize how important it is to mail back the RSVP.
I was constantly referring back to the originals to make sure I had everyone in my spreadsheet, etc. You can’t remember every FB message, phone call, voicemail, text message!!!
Post # 4
Oh my gosh, I would be so annoyed at the phone call. Courtesy guest? What are you supposed to say about that? I guess she just wants to connect with you about your wedding. At least they want to tell you they will be attending and not calling you at work to decline! That is hilarious about the facebook yes or no event!! ahha!
Post # 5
OK. Wow. The FB one is pretty bad. Somehow I can see 1 or 2 of my friends doing that on my wall. To which I will promptly reply get on our wedding site and RSVP!!!
Post # 6
yeah…it sucks but i’ll admit that before i started planning my wedding, I was someone who forgot to mail the card in and would just call/email/text. Im still irritated with people who are not following protocol…but now I am limiting my irritation to people that got married LAST YEAR so they know how stressful this whole RSVP-ing crap can be…
Post # 7
At this point, I am just glad to hear from whoever we invited whether they are coming or not. (But we didn’t provide RSVP envelopes with stamps, we asked people to RSVP on our wedding website)
I can understand why you are frustrated. But on the bright side- at least you didn’t have to hunt them down!
Post # 8
On Facebook? Really?!?! Wow, that’s a liitle weird! haha! Hope you start getting some cards back in the mail!
Post # 9
We have people verbally rsvping *to my mom* who is just updating our online guest list. On the one hand I guess that’s convenient, but on the other hand it’s really annoying — just stick the card back in the mail and send it to us, already. We stamped it for you and everything. I also worry that people who just verbally RSVP aren’t as certain about coming as people who send the card in… siiiiiiiiiiigh.
Post # 10
I think I’m most annoyed with the Facebook rsvp. I wrote back, fine I’m putting you down for 1. I invited her with a guest, but I’m taking her guest option away on the grounds of breaking rsvp rules 🙂 She knows better, she works in catering! Particulary, the I’ll eat whatever, comment. She knows I need to give the caterer a count!
On a good note – the REAL rsvp cards are coming in daily!! I have been going home during lunch to check the mail because I’m obessed
Post # 11
Um, people have been calling my FMIL to RSVP to my wedding. Even though on the invitation it lists MY HOME PHONE NUMBER AND OUR WEBSITE.
I’m sick of it. People are so dumb!!!!
Post # 12
Well, they lost the invites, which is aggravating but not that horrible. Given that situation, what would you prefer them to do? Not tell you anything? Not come?
It’s still aggravating though 🙂
Post # 13
I can see the frustration in people misplacing your invitations, but I agree that it’s better to hear from them one way or another than having to reach out to them again or not hear at all. I think that because we don’t use formal etiquette very often in our daily lives people don’t realize that it’s important to respond formally to your formal invitation. I can understand it’s probably inappropriate and distracting to get a call at work, but you may just try to let it go and be happy these people want to celebrate with you.
Post # 14
HA! I’ve been getting family members stopping me when I see them and saying "do I have to ascually RSVP? You know I’m coming, right?"
Ugh! That’s not the point!
Anyway, we feel you. That is really annoying.
Post # 15
I think I’d be relieved they at least contacted me! Some people lose the RSVP and then just show up!!
Post # 16
Honestly, I don’t see what the big problem is!! They lost the invite, it’s a totally honest mistake so they clearly can’t send back the RSVP if they don’t have it!