Post # 1
Waiting is hard.
We all have sadly come to realise that…But what if your SO proposed and it was badly timed or poorly thought out with no imagination.? All in all, I would like to be able to say I wouldn’t mind when, where, how and the fact that he is asking me at all would be enough BUT…BUT, sadly after thinking about it, there are some instances where I wouldn’t want it to happen
We are due to go on the holiday of a lifetime to America in June. We have so many amazing things planned out, things we have never done before and will probably never do again. Holiday of a lifetime….perfect time to propose you might think. No. I would hate for him to do it there simply because his brother proposed to his GF in America on their amazing holiday. I don’t particularly get on with this girl which would make it even harder that I would feel like I’ve ‘shared’ my special moment with her. I would find it annoying that my SO had not put any thought into making his proposal unique
Am I now filled with a mixture of fear (that he will do it in the US) and self loathing at my own ungratefulness/selfishness (for even thinking of examples of an ‘unacceptable’ proposal) I feel like such a bitch but I can’t help it. I don’t want my proposal to mirror his brothers! Anyone else ever had thoughts of ‘I hope he doesn’t do this, that, the other’ or bad/disappointing proposal experiences?
Post # 3
For me I honestly wouldnt care if he did it in the local shop with a sweety ring… I just wish he would do it already :-p
I do understand what u mean though, I would hate for my proposal to be like someone elses…. especially someone i know! Could u maybe hint that it would be lovely if you could start your engagement (new life together) with a bang… or a holiday of a lifetime??
I hope it is everything you want when it comes!!
Post # 4
Oh oh, that vacation might be the perfect time he had in mind. Maybe strategize a little and find a way to hint that you would hate it if your proposal seemed like somebody elses.
But there are a lot of beautiful places in America and so many things wonderful things to do. Even if the continent is the same everything else is probably completly different. So don’t just let the fact that it’s on the same continent get to you to much. And don’t overthink it. Just look into his eyes when he proposes, he’s the one, feel his love and you probably will be happy no matter what!
Post # 5
I wish my SO would just do it already too! I don’t care if I’m sitting on the toilet! JUST DO IT!!
Good luck to you though! Hope you get your dream proposal!
Post # 6
As much as I would move forward with SO, if he put no thought/ effort into our proposal I would be a little disappointed deep down. I gave him all this time- so I expect him to make it worth the wait. I just want it to be heartfelt and thoughtful, hopefully he can make it happen!
Post # 7
well no offense, but America is a pretty big place…just because he proposed to her in one country doesn’t mean your SO can’t propose to you in the same country lol
Post # 8
I’ve asked that he propose on his side of the country instead of me (we are LDR). I understand about not wanting the same proposal his brother. FBIL just did my ideal proposal to his FI and now I’m worried it’s going to mess up SO’s plans.
Post # 9
my friends proposal wasnt really a proposal. they were passing a wedding expo, and he suggested they went in. and then they put a deposit down on a venue and date together. so no ring or proposal. i think she was a bit disappointed, esp as friends always ask “so how did he do it then?!”
this is a terrible thing to admit, but when my fi proposed, i did briefly wonder why he did it then hahaha. i mean, it was lovely, in the field outside my house. but we were about to go to the ice hotel in sweden…my dream holiday, and i did wonder why he didnt do it there hahaha
Post # 10
@angelinaUK: I had several fears– I didn’t want him to embarass me in public or ask me on Valentine’s day. We talked about what I wanted and what I didn’t want in a really low pressure way. I said “it would be great if we got engaged on vacation because then we could have time for us to enjoy it before having everyone start asking us about wedding planning”. My FI’s friend told her boyfriend “I want it to be a complete shock, on a random day, when I am not expecting it. I’d much prefer toget engaged on a Tuesday over takeout than at a fancy restaurant on Saturday night”
Post # 11
See, I’m weird. As much as I want to be engaged NOW I realllllly don’t want him to propose until this school year is done. I want to be able to enjoy it and relax, and this school year is everything but relaxing. 3 more months!!!!!
Post # 12
- Wedding: August 2014 - South Bonson Pier & Community Centre
Apparently my fiancée had this breakfast all planned out on our five year anniversary. we were going to have a private breakfast by the pool at the Fairmont in Seattle. It would have been very romantic. Of course, knowing we were going out for dinner that night, when he said, lets go down to the pool, I refused and said that I didn’t want to get my hair wet. He didnt try to convince me. Instead, he took a shower and I stayed in bed. When he comes out he wakes me up, says put a shirt on, and then does it in the middle of our dirty hotel room. Then, five minutes later, he’s like get dressed. And then takes me to the mall so he can get a shave.
I was so angry for a month or two. He knew I was expecting something thoughtful. I’m still annoyed by it. he thought about it enough that he had picked out a significant date, but I wish he would have done something more.
Post # 13
i just want it to be heartfelt and thoughtful. also, i would not like it to be at a restaurant. i would be humiliated. i would love for it to be done at disney world, but we aren’t going until august. that feels like so long from now…
Post # 14
@angelinaUK: I have read a few really disappointing proposal stories on the Bee (girls who were disappointed bc their SO’s didn’t really think out anything at all) and I would be disappointed too if some of those were me. But like some PPs said, the US is quite large and very diverse, so even if she was proposed to in one city/state, if your BF proposed to you in another it could be COMPLETELY different. I would try not to compare yourself to them and I know it’s nice to have a good story when people ask, but really we all know the most important thing is the moment with your new fiance. Good luck!