Post # 1
i have 2 half-sisters who are not involved in my life at all. they are about 10 yrs older than me and ive only known them a few years. one is divorced and one is married but ive never met or spoken to her husband. i barely talk to the married one on facebook and i havent talked to the other one in over a year! the married one has expressed interest in some wedding plans recently and i feel obligated to invite them since they are family (even tho Fiance doesnt want to invite them because there are other people we know better who we have had to cut out of the guestlist).
we probably are not going to do plus-ones (aside from serious relationships) but i feel awkward inviting the divorced sister who will be sitting with the married one and her husband. Would it be really bad to just send an invite to the married sister but addressed to both of them? That way they could be eachother’s date and my Fiance isnt mad that the husband of someone i barely speak to is on our guestlist while he is having to cut friends out?
im sure this is bad etiquette etc. but just need some feedback from you guys!. im sure they wouldnt mind coming together but i also dont want to come off as rude!
Post # 3
If they live at different addresses i would send them each one. If they live together then it is okay to send one
Post # 4
That’s kind of a toughie.
Sounds like these half-sisters are close? As is they wouldn’t *mind* coming to the wedding together….but if you do go that route, I would send them each their own invitation. I think it would be awkward to mail an invitation to one sister and have the other sister listed on the inner envelope…kwim?
I think it’d still be better to simply invite the one and her hubby and the other one should receive a plus one designation on her invitation. These women are family, afterall. That’s only 4 guests total. And you never know, it could make your relationship stronger!
Post # 5
You really should invite the husband of the married sister.. Is there anyone in your family you could actually talk to about this so that the message is clear that perhaps they could just come together since they are close but you and them aren’t? If you just point blank send the invite without the husband on it they may get really offended. I know that even though I’m married I would not mind going to a distant relative’s wedding without my husband but with my sister. My sister and I are super close, and I know my husband would be happy to not have to sit through an affair of someone he doesn’t know. However, I may think it is rude if the invite is not extended to my husband at all since we do come as a unit. My advice is to talk to someone who is related to both of you and see what that person suggests. Perhaps whichever parent is the one you share.
Post # 6
I invited two sisters in one invite, but only because they live in the same house. I think if you send one invite the married sister might still assume her husband is invited. I would send separate invites but since you’ve been talking wedding stuff with her just mention that the guest list is super tight and shell get the hint
Post # 7
@bbridetobee: They’re adults. Each gets her own invite.
You can’t invite the married one and not her husband. It doesn’t matter if you’ve never met him, it’s still rude.
Post # 8
Don’t ever invite someone without their spouse. That’s a dick move.
Post # 9
I actually wouldn’t mind attending a wedding with my sister. It would kinda be fun….the men could stay at home with the kids while we hit the town!!