Post # 1
Just wanted to vent a little. DBF hinted that he bought the ring over a week and a half ago, meaning if it were to get sized, it should’ve been done by now. Yes, I calculated it and got psycho about it.
Still, no proposal. He just keeps laughing at me. I thought it would happen last weekend and it didn’t. Asked if we had any plans for this coming weekend and he said no, he’s going to work on a friends truck.
I just want to scream. Last night when he said that I just bursted out bawling. Full on ugly cry. He sat there, stunned, and said “What’s wrong?” and I just blurted out, “You haven’t proposed! I’ve been waiting forever!” and he LAUGHED at me.
He laughed and said “you need to be patient. I love torturing you”
And that made me cry even more so here I am, sitting there, ugly face and tears streaming like crazy, whining and crying like a big spoiled brat.
Then I went to bed.
UGH. I have ZERO patience whatsoever and I’m going nuts. Doesn’t help that I’m PMSing and even cried while watching Biggest Loser!
Post # 3
OMG you’re probably just hormonal from the PMS… but seriously, YOU KNOW HE BOUGHT THE RING.. you know it’s coming soon! Let him do it on his own time and make it special for you!!
I know the annoyance in having to wait for a ring (I’m there, too) – isn’t it nice to be able to come here and vent? Just keep venting to us and don’t let him have the pleasure of torturing you while you wait.
I bet as soon as you stop asking for it, he’ll do it.
Also, my friend’s DH waited SIX MONTHS before he proposed after he got the ring. Seriously. Six months! I think there’s a thread with a poll that shows how long guys have waited after they got the ring, so you can get an idea.
But.. don’t you want it to be a special proposal? Do you really just want him to give you the ring? The ring might be here but maybe he’s planning a proposal and that’s not ready yet. Just wait it out! At least the ring is here.. it’s not like you’re waiting and don’t know when it’ll happen. Any day now, girl!
Post # 4
Yes! I know I want it to be special but then I just exploded out of no where. This is seriously the worse PMS I’ve ever had. One of the contestants on BL were crying and I started bawling. Yesterday was just ridiculous!
And I HOPE the ring is here…he hinted at it, confirmed my size, ended up telling me he got it in a 4.75 and then now he keeps saying “I don’t have it.” Which I’m sure he’s just saying to throw me off, but jeez, it is killing me.
I guess I shall occupy my craziness with weddingbee and all of you lovely ladies so that I don’t torture MYSELF or him…haha
Post # 5
I hope this makes you feel better. My wedding is in 2 months. I have no ring. I feel completely silly planning a wedding when I’m not even “officially” engaged. I broke down to SO last night, because I feel completely stupid talking to anyone wedding related because I don’t have a ring on my finger, so I don’t feel like they take me seriously. He told me to just be patient. Gah.
I feel your pain. HUGS!!
Post # 6
@futuremrskrohn: Don’t know why guys do this. If he bought the ring then get the damn proposal over with since you KNOW he has the ring.
Yeah if he was sitting on it and you didn’t know, then fine… but this is just silly.
Post # 7
@flowersandfaerydust: oh, no! I would feel silly too…but! The upside is you know your date, you probably have most of your arrangements set up and everything is going to happen according to plan. You will just have less of an engagement period, which could be nice in some ways. I hope we both get our rings soon! Goodluck love!! xx
Post # 8
I would have a serious issue with the way he’s treating this. This is a proposal for marriage between two adult humans, not a dog with a treat on its nose waiting for the owner to say okay. The fact that he’s enjoying this ‘torture’ is extremely unfortunate, as is your reaction to it. You need to calm down (seriously) but he also needs to understand that this isn’t appropriate. Cant you see that for yourself? I hope you can.
Post # 9
@canarydiamond: I don’t know why either, it’s driving me crazy. I’ve been trying my best to keep quiet about it, but seriously, if you got the ring, couldn’t you have planned something while it was off being sized? Instead of making me wait and suffer :'(
Okay, I will stop being a baby now.
@Blanche: Yes, I see what you’re saying, too. Like I said, he thinks it’s hilarious and literally laughed and had a big smile on his face while I was hormonally bawling. He even had our three year old daughter repeat him and ask, “Mommy, are you sad because daddy hasn’t given you a ring yet?” RIDICULOUS! And yes, I need to calm down. It will happen when it happens….yesterday was just a bad day haha.
Post # 10
The fact that he “loves torturing you” is sad.
I wouldn’t mention the ring ever again.
Post # 11
🙁 *hugs* I’m a horrible hormonal mess when I’m PMS’ing too. Our last big talk a few weeks ago, to include ugly crying, was while I was pmsing. I just couldn’t wait any longer to talk to him because I was feeling so out of whack.
Hoping for a proposal soon for you! *good vibes*
Post # 12
@GroovyHippieChick: I really don’t think he meant it in a hurtful way. I just think he’s enjoying the fact that he has all of the power in this. I guess that is not the best thing. I don’t know. But it’s def been hard. I will try to take your advice and not talk about it!
Post # 13
PMS can get me to go from happy to crazy in 60 seconds LOL.
My last one lasted 3 days and the only thing that I manage not to do is throw plates 🙂 (it gets expensive)
Just have some wine and watch a chick flick, don’t forget some treats too. Have “YOU” moment and if you need to cry it out then do so, get it out of your system. Tomorrow is another day and sun will shine and you will be in control over your emotions again.
Your SO bought the ring, he wouldn’t have done that If he wasn’t planning to make you his wife, just breathe in the experience 🙂
Men like to tease with the proposal stuff, it puts them in control and i guess they find it cute ? LOL, I don’t know why they do it but they do. Start ignoring it a bit 🙂
Post # 14
@sleepingbeauty88: Thank you doll. I usually don’t PMS like this but this time has been an emotional rollercoaster. I hope you get yours soon as well! Tons of positive, healthy, non-psychotic thoughts!
Post # 15
@futuremrskrohn: He had your daughter say that?
He sucks monkey balls.
Sorry your situation sucks right now.
Post # 16
@futuremrskrohn: Must be someting in the water this month! I literally cried for 3 days straight, multiple times a day, and almost gave the “marry me or I’m out the door” ultimatum. (Like – I had my friends on standby in case I needed a couch to crash on)
BTW – Today is our 7 year anniversary! Whew! Can we say 7 year itch?