Post # 1
My parents and I went out after church for breakfast with a family we are good friends with (my best friend, in fact). We are both waiting for proposals so we were talking about wedding stuff and it got me thinking about my proposal. I texted my SO and told him taht they were planning our wedding lol. He said to not worry that he would make me happy.
I called him when I got home and we talked and he said that hopefully we would be engaged by the end of the year. WTF? He has promised me many times that it would happen this year and now he hopes it will happen? I just wanted to cry so bad when he said that. My birthday is next month and I was hoping that maybe it would happen then. He’s not one to play games either so I know he didn’t say that to throw me off of any plans.
This whole waiting thing is driving me absolutely crazy and the only thing that has kept me going is knowing that it will happen by the end of year. I’m not sure what to think right now. I just know I will be absolutely crushed if January 1 comes and I’m still unengaged.
Thanks bees for reading and being my only outlet right now. Any words of wisdom from you very wise ladies?
ETA: Finances are a bit tight but he recently got some money so I know he’s saving and I’ve offered to pay the downpayment, but no dice. He refuses to finance a ring and would rather pay it off completely upfront. I admire him for that but it sucks because that holds up our engagement 🙁
Post # 3
I’ve had an end of year promise too. I know i’ll be crushed if he puts it off just to surprise me.
I am a bit further along in the process now – he actually has the ring – but I have been where you are. On New Years Eve 2009/10 he we chatting in bed after midnight – suppose it was actually new yers day 🙂 and he promised that we would be engaged by the end of the year. New Years Eve 2010/11 came and went and still no proposal. Looking back on it I think I kinda puched him into saying it and it was for financial reasons that he didn’t. He has the ring now but has it on a financial plan where he can take the ring home and pay it off weekly no interest or anything – take home layby I suppose.
ANYWAY…I get what you are feeling because some days I have really bad waiting days when I am like…he could have done what he is doing now last year but…I also know when it happens it will be the right time for us.
Mind you I have been going absolutely spare the last few days DYING for it to happen 🙂
Hold on there…i’m sure all the bee’s are there to support you 🙂
Post # 4
pushed him* NOT punched him – that makes me sound terribly violent! I am not – I promise 🙂
Post # 5
I kinda puched him
OP, if it was me i would have said “what do you mean by hopefully” but then again im pushy – i can only hope he wont let you down and in the meantime dont let this one word spoil the next few months for you, dont forget to enjoy the now as its another building block for your future together
Post # 6
I’m also on the year end plan and will be VERY upset if it doesn’t happen by then. Especially because he already has the ring and knows that I know that. Actually, I’m almost positive that he had the ring in his pocket on Saturday but either didn’t see a good chance or couldn’t work up the courage or something. It drove me CRAZY. Either that or he is now growing a ring box shaped tumor on the side of his leg 🙂
Post # 7
Hopefully? Yeah. That would bug me too. Granted, there’s always the chance he used the wrong word. I would have done what eloping said. I would have asked to. Is it too late to get clarification? Maybe a “What did you mean by hopefully?”
Post # 8
Just let it go. Sometimes guys will say things to throw you off. It sounds like that’s what he’s doing..
Post # 9
@happy2bee: Ring box shaped tumor! I just literally just LOLed. That made my night.
Post # 10
@HopefulInLove: i thought she was going to type ring box shaped penis
Post # 11
@happy2bee: Ring box shaped tumor made me laugh. . .especially being in a medical field. Lol 🙂
Post # 12
So a quick update: I did talk to him later Sunday night and asked him what he meant by ‘hopefully”. He reassured me that it will happen by then and not to worry, he made a promise to me and he will keep that promise. It felt good to be assured that his plan hadn’t changed. Thanks for letting me vent and for the great advice, as always.
Post # 13
I bet he is just throwing you off! My FI said the same thing and I was getting kind of sad around June/July when I asked for a season (haha)… he said WINTER. Ugh, I was thinking winter could mean this year or next year. So I kinda gave up on it and to my surpsise he asked me August 19th. TOTALLY unexpected. I think the biggest part for them is making it a surpise!