(Closed) Bad waiting day. . . no, month :(

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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764 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@Creiddylad:  To be honest, I really do not know what to tell you. I do not know his personality or his life to know what he is thinking. From what I read it could be one of three things. 

1: He wants to keep you completely thrown for a loop so that you will be extremly surprised when he does pop the question. And is just waiting for the right moment

2:He really does not know what he wants. He is buying time to figure it out.

3: He does not ever want to get married, but still wants to be with you. He just does not know a way to tell you this. 

Any one of these could be it or not at all. The only thing I could suggest is a good talk with him on the subject. Tell him how you feel,and that you really just want to know his feelings. Even if those feelings are number 2. 

Post # 7
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764 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@Creiddylad:  A lot of the time men do not realize the scenarios that are minds go through when we want to know something. Men do not think like we do. They think in the present and most of their worries are financial and not emotional. As women we worry about all of the above. We can not sleep until there is a solution to an issue. I like to think that we balance each other out. 

Cause if we did not have our SOs telling us to calm down and not worry, we would always do things too quickly. While we are there for them to tell them to hurry up. End the end it all works out and things are done just in the knick of time. 

You should not be scared to talk to him. He loves you. He should listen and care about your feelings. Be kind and patient with him. His answer may or may not come quickly. Listen to him just like you want him to listen to you. 

I know that one of my greatest fears is that I blow up at my SO because he has not proposed yet, when it could possibly only be a few weeks away. So calmly and collectively state your feelings to him. 🙂

GOOD LUCK over the Holidays! 

Post # 9
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367 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Creiddylad:  I’m in a similar situation… my SO is also kinda old (not trying to be disrespectful) but above 30 years old guys should be ready for commitment and should know what they want! mine is 35 years old.. So I’m also in grad school and also see him once a week. It’s hard, not only we do not get to see SO often, plus he makes us wait. The grad school is so f** stressful, so it adds the distress. And I don’t even talk about “boyfriend” around my advisor, who would take me seriously. If people have husbands, then it is legit. With the grad school there are certain months that wedding is better, in my case I want June. April is too early and cold, May is a bad luck, June is perfect, July is bad luck, August would be good but I want to change my name and go under SO’s insurance and I would not have enough time to do it bef0re I have to pay fees for uni and purchase insurance in late August, September is not good because I have to work on research, same for other months. June is perfect because after exams I will have one month to get ready for wedding, and will still work in the summer after the bedding and honeymoon. I have already set u counting to this date in JUne I want, so now I need the ring and can start OFFICIALLY planning.

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