Post # 1
hi bees. just need to vent a little.
so i totally broke my own shut-it-up pact over the weekend. dumb, yes, but i’m kinda glad i opened my big mouth. for those of you that haven’t read any previous posts, SO is all about our engagement being 100% a surprise…no ring shopping, no hints, just a timeline that it’s coming i just need to shut up and be patient. HA!! so i told him this weekend that i needed more…something! and i did get a promise that it will happen if i stop bringing it up. progress!
so here’s the thing…and if you’ve read my previous posts, you know SO’s younger brother just got engaged…and for the past month it’s all everyone can talk about. ugh. i’ll admit it, i’m 100% jealous. and of course i’ve gotten “when’s it your turn?” from close friends and family of SO’s. so annoying. i just keep hearing things like “i’m so happy “peach” will be a part of the family”, and asking me if it will be too hard for me to help peach plan their wedding since i’m not engaged yet. ugh, really!? yes, i’m excited for them, yes, i will help her plan. yes, it is one of the most frustrating things ever, but i’m an adult and i will act like an adult. i hope 😉 blah. it’s so hard not to think about yourself getting married when every one is talking about such things. and to be completely honest, i don’t care about the wedding part. i would marry SO today in my pajamas. in 10 years, i’m not going to care about what the colors were, the flowers, the dumb bridesmaid dresses, or the music that was played. i just want to be able to call him my husband and start my life with him. is that too much to ask!?!
but, on a happier note, living with SO is amazing! i feel like i have a forever home and knowing that i will come home and laugh everyday (SO is the funniest person i’ve ever met) is the greatest feeling ever! sooo….back to shutting it up i guess. not a fan of that. don’t they realize if they just propose, we won’t bring it up ever again!? it’s a win-win!! helloooo!!
thanks for letting me vent bees and thank goodness for this website!! any words of encouragment are welcome. 🙂 good luck to all!!
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2017 - Baton Rouge, LA
So… this week I’ve had an epiphany that might help you out.
I’ve been dating my SO for over 8 years, we’ve lived together for 1 year, and my 2 best friends got married last year & I was maid of honor in both. Needless to say, I’m soooooo ready to be engaged & get married!!
But, for some reason, probably reading these boards constantly, I’ve realized I need to enjoy where our relationship is right NOW. Just dating, hanging out, being carefree, lazy, and virtually stress free.
Once you get engaged, its all about the planning. I KNOW my wedding planning is going to be stressful just by the things SO & my parents & his parents have said before. It’s going to be a struggle to make sure things go smoothly. Not really looking forward to the drama.
After we get married, according to this possible timeline I’ve thought up, he’ll be 27 and I’ll be 26. This is about the time we’ll start trying to have children. Obviously our lives will change dramatically!! And we’ll never get these lazy, fun, relaxing all the time days again til we’re old & retired!
My SO wants to make a big surprise for me too. Luckily, I’ve gotten him to open up some on a proposal timeline & I know it’s coming this year & that he’s been working on getting the ring since last year, so that helps me feel better knowing I’m not waiting for nothing. At least you know your SO loves you & wants to marry you. You KNOW that. Enjoy your relationship for what it is right now. It’ll never be this way again! Good luck!
Post # 4
@theEguarantee: wow! thanks girl! i’ve heard other people try to explain kind of what you said, but not really in a way i could relate too. they say the standard, it will happen when it’s meant too…blah blah blah. what you wrote is absolutley relatable. you’re right. i will never have these days of being carefree again. something to think about!! 🙂 thanks again, good luck to you!!
Post # 5
“i would marry SO today in my pajamas. in 10 years, i’m not going to care about what the colors were, the flowers, the dumb bridesmaid dresses, or the music that was played. i just want to be able to call him my husband and start my life with him. is that too much to ask!?! “
I definately could have written those words myself!!! I’m with ya!! I really couldn’t care less about what my ring looks like, or what I wear, he wears, or any of that. I just want my life with my husband to start RIGHT NOW! I’d run to city hall tomorrow with a ring pop if I could!!
Good luck waiting! Keep your chin up, when it happens it will all be worth it (or that’s what I keep getting told!!)