Post # 1
I’d just like to let off some steam. Me and my boyfriend picked out my ring 2 weeks ago and I just want it to happen.
I’ve been making a good effort not to mention anything engagement/wedding related, even not watching programmes about weddings when he’s around.
It’s just hard what with all these celebs getting married after no time at all (Cheryl Cole – 9 weeks!) and there’s me, heading towards 2.5 years with the same guy and no ring.
We’ve lived together for almost 2 years and have pets, he’s a valued member of my family now.
And I’m annoyed that my dad will know that I’m going to get engaged before I do!
Please help 🙁 xx
Post # 2
Robotbot: Did he actually take the ring home that day?
When DH and I went to look at rings, we didn’t go home with one. I just tried on a few, wrote down two I liked, and sent him with the cards. It was a few months later when he proposed. Why? Well, for one, he went back right away to buy the ring, but it was already gone, and he had to special order it which took over 6 weeks. Second, as part of his proposal he made a video slideshow, which took him the longest.
Knowing what I know now it was all worth the wait. Being patient is hard, but me may be formulating a really great proposal for you, and you will appreciate it when the time does come.
And I found out after I got enagged that my parents already knew becuase my DH couldn’t hold it in. Didn’t bother me one bit because I was so happy that I was engaged to the man I love.
Post # 3
You just have to trust you two are on the same page. If he hasn’t clearly articulated that for some reason, just ask him what’s up. If he’s bought a ring though, I wouldn’t worry about it needlessly.
Comparing to others, especially celebs, will always make you feel worse too!
Post # 4
Just try to enjoy this time as much as you can. You know it’s coming. Don’t compare yourself to others, like a PP said – that robs you of joy!
Post # 5
why compare your life to those of a celebrity? that is weird..just wait!
Post # 6
I’m not weird it’s probably just my age and the media influence, I’m 22. I’m insecure at best and it dosen’t help.
He didn’t buy the ring that day, but the reference card with my size circled is in the ‘general stuff’ bowl in the kitchen.
We’re going away in the last week of August so I’m hoping for a romantic proposal then, but I’ll try not to get my hopes up too much.
He did say he would take ‘not ages’ in asking, bit he said of I was hoping for a proposal in the next week or two I might be dissappointed haha.
Post # 7
Robotbot: Waiting isn’t the easiest thing but please try not to get disheartened. You know, at least he has actually taken you ring shopping and it’s going to happen! I was with FI for 2.5 years when he proposed. He bought the ring in August and he proposed in October. It was hard for me to wait because his mum accidently told me she was excited about the ring lol! I’m sure it’s going to happen soon for you. If you be too impatient/upset about waiting it really will take away the joy of when he does propose and you will just end up frustrated.
Post # 8
Robotbot: celebs are retarded do not compare your life to them. If this man has looked at the ring with you I say just be patient and it will happen. He has a plan most likely and unless he has done or said something to prove to you otherwise, I would relax a bit and get ready…I am sure it’s coming:)
Post # 9
I’m 22. Been with my boyfriend 5 years, living together 3. We looked at rings in JANUARY…still not enaged. He put the deposit down on my ring 2 weeks ago and it will take 3-4 weeks to make (it’s custom) so it should be ready either next week or the week after. Try not to compare yourself to others because it makes it even harder. Take comfort in knowing that you looked at rings and it will happen soon enough. I know when he put the deposit down on mine, a weight was lifted off of my shoulders. We are also going on vacation next month so I am hoping for a Hawaiian proposal lol Just be patient and enjoy this moment. I keep thinking that in a month I could be enaged and I actually feel kind of sad that I won’t be “waiting” anymore.
Also, are you in the south? lol
Post # 10
The ring has been in my house for almost three weeks. All you can do right now is focus on you. Take youself to get a facial or take long walks with the dog. Whatver relaxes you and puts you in a good mindset. It’s coming, you just can’t watch the pot…the water never boils when you watch it! 🙂
Post # 11
My husband took 3 months to propose after he bought the ring. He’ll do it when he’s ready 🙂
I was with my man for 5.5 years before he proposed, so consider yourself lucky!
Post # 12
I totally feel you! My FI and I had finished picking our rings out together in May 2014. I thought he would propose within a few weeks. I anticipated it for a long time and then after awhile it got really old that he didn’t do it yet. My birthday passed, and 4th of July, still nothing. I was pretty much at the brink of ‘if he doesn’t do it and someone else gets engaged i’m going to go CRAZY!’
Fast forward to middle of July, he totally surprised me and caught me off guard! He said it was too predictable to do it on my birthday or 4th of July, and wanted me to be really surprised. He explained that he was happy we shopped and picked out the ring together, but he wanted to take ownership of the proposal and still be a gentleman and make it meaningful!
Please try to keep that in mind while waiting! 2 months for me felt like an eternity. I almost accused him of just buying a ‘shut up ring’. LOL. But it was all worth it. I truly believe that when he proposed it was the best timing in our lives, and if he had done it earlier it wouldn’t have been as destined as it was when it happened.
Best of luck!
Post # 13
Robotbot: I’ve worked with a lot of celebrities and their relationships are no better than anyone else’s, sometimes worse. A lot of what you see is PR. It’s about image and getting press. Thier managers and publicity people will push it as business deal sometimes.
then there is the awful pap stalking that goes on and worse, so try to set aside the image of celebrities. What you see is. It is not the whole story. You are lucky if someone loves you for who you are. Cherish that!
Post # 14
Robotbot: i am in exactly the same boat as you.. Just wrote a post.. 2.5 years together.. Lived together for 2.. We adopted a dog over a year together. It is extremely frustrating and sad.. Everyone around ua is getting engaged and married.. People even after one year.. the reply I got to my post was right.. If it’s meant to be it will.. It’s just so dissapointing.. I know how hard it is..