Post # 1
SO and I exchanged Xmas gifts on Saturday. We did this early because we are going out of town and wanted to do this before we left. And because we are also impatient. Needless to say, there was no ring. He managed to get me two ultra rare pieces for my vintage (project) car which totally rock! However, as I’m sure you can all relate to, I’m kinda bummed because they weren’t a stupid ring. Everything that I saw as a hint about a ring can be explained as him securing these two items. I guess that this is a good thing, since I know for sure that it won’t happen on our trip and won’t be expecting it. I think I always knew that he wouldn’t be able to pull it off this year.
Then on Sunday we had lunch with my family. Before the meal even started my mother decides to inform me that “neither one of you (i.e. SO or I) need to be thinking about getting married or having a baby.” WTF!?! I’ll be 30 in February, he is 36, and we’ve both been married before. It’s not like we’re still teenagers living at home. I let it go and chose not to address the issue at that time, but that hurt.
Post # 3
What the heck, why would your mother say that?? Obviously your not an 18 year old or something. Thats really strange.
But sorry about not getting engaged. 🙁 It will happen. 🙂
At least you still got a good present. lol.
Post # 4
Your not allowed to get married or have children even though your 30? I guess you have to be back home before 12 and eat all your veggies on your plate too. Thats how outdated your mother sounds.
Take no notice, and it’s still not christmas yet. He may still surprise you!
Post # 5
You’re better than I am, I would have had some words for my mother for saying that!
Post # 6
I’m super impressed that you work on cars. I’ve only learned to hear for weird noises and immediately report that to the bf. lol // I’ve learned to ignore my mother…ugh. It would’ve taken all my will power to keep quiet after that. You’re such a bigger person!
Post # 7
What a bizarre thing for your mother to say! Was she being sarcastic? Does she have a reason for telling you that??
I will trade parents with you if you like, mine don’t understand why my SO doesn’t ask me to marry him, and they’re always making comments about things that “would be nice” if we got married (like things they’d like to give us as gifts, places to go on our honeymoon, etc). And according to my grandparents I should’ve been married and popping out babies YEARS ago. They’ve wished me a Happy Mother’s Day “just in case” for the past 3 years now. Sigh…
Post # 8
@Sugaree: How do you know for sure that it won’t happen on your trip? I really think that NO ONE who is in waiting should be upset YET — or even a week or so beyond the New Year — since your SOs may JUST be planning wonderful, special, amazing surprises for you! To really pull off a surprise at Christmas, or near any major event such as a birthday, dating anniversary, Valentine’s Day, special trip, etc., a guy would definitely want you to think it was NOT going to happen. I suggest you not allow yourself to be disappointed. Who knows? Maybe your mom is even part of the rouse? At this point, I would not even try to figure it out, confront or investigate. Just enjoy the rest of 2011 and see what happens. 🙂
Post # 9
@MisfitPrincess: I’ve already been married once, so it’s totally not the losing a daughter thing. Maybe it’s because we’re both still in school. I graduate in the spring and he will graduate in the fall or spring of ’13, but will be able to start working in his field in May. He’s unemployed right now so I’m sure that has something to do with it.
As for the kid thing, I used to be anti-kids. I didn’t even start thinking about wanting kids until I was 25. However, I never bothered to tell my mother that I changed my mind on this subject. Mainly to keep her off my back about the subject. Guess I don’t have to worry about that now.
It’s not that my relationship is bad with my mom, it’s just kinda non-existant. SO talks to her way more than I do. We’re just very different personality-wise. She was the “good daughter” who catered to her parents’ wishes even if it meant sacrificing what she wanted. This lasted until my grandfather’s death a year and a half ago. Let’s just say that I’m not what she expected when she had a daughter. I’m her headstrong, willfull, independent child. The one who never listens. Which is why it’s so strange that her comments upset me as much as they did.
@Brielle: If he manages to pull this off then I truly will be surprised. He is unemployed but works as a “freelance handyman.” I know that he had to beg, borrow, and steal to make what he’s done so far happen. He made everyone else’s gifts this year (actually made me an awesome jewelry box too). So I know he’s pretty much broke right now.
Post # 10
@MisfitPrincess: hahahaha I love the “just in case” mother’s day congratulations!
Post # 11
Sorry about the lack of ring, and that your mom would make such a weird comment…
What kind of car are you working on??
That sounds like a fun project 🙂
Post # 12
@KittenB: It’s a 1939 Packard 120. It’s will be a beautiful car once it’s finished. He got me the goddess of speed hood ornament with the original glass wings and the original repair manual for it.