- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2015
wondering if anyone else is dating a cop
wondering if anyone else is dating a cop
Haha I wondered if that was what this post was about. But yeah, I married one.
I’ll be marrying one in 5 months! 🙂
hah! I’ve never heard that phrase. The one we use is “buckle bunnies” for rodeo/cowboy chasers.
no cop here…but a firefighter…who has his peace officers liscense…they have to do that to be an arson investigator 🙂 Hope that counts 🙂
how do you all make it work this the crazy work shifts. its been super hard lately with the overnights. ps im sorry for the bad punctuation… using the phone to post.
I am marrying one in two weeks. I am a paramedic so we kinda both have to put up with eachothers crazy schedules. I work 2 24 hour shifts a week and he works mon-friday afternoons leaves for very little time together as my 24 hours are rotating and always seem to fall on his days off.
It’s not that bad. I work for the department as well, but am not an officer, just a civilian. So I understand how it all works and although I work the day watch hours and he works nights, we make it work. It sucks sometimes falling asleep by myself, but gotta get used to it. Plus, he won’t ALWAYS be night watch. I don’t know how your department works, but for us they switch watches often.
I work at the detachment as a civilian as well so we actually work the same shift most of the time. I don’t know how we’ll manage once we have kids (nanny maybe?) but for now 4 on 4 off together is great.
@SapphireSun: You guys have the exact same schedule? That’s great! My FI works 12 hour shifts but as a civilian I work 8 hours. So I’m stuck working 5 days and he has the lucky 3s. I also work weekends and holidays just like him, so that works out. We try to have as many similar days off as we can, but it doesn’t always work out great. He works for another division within our department so their needs are different than my division. I see the hat in your picture. Did your husband get married in his uniform? My FI wanted to really badly and I would’ve totally been down for it if only our dept’s dress coat was nice. I don’t like the Ike jacket look. If it was the same as our Color Guard’s, I would’ve 100% agreed for him to wear his uniform.
How long have you been with your SO? Just curious. I’m a teacher, so I have the regular 8-5 schedule, mon-fri. It does get lonely sometimes. I grew up with a father that worked in construction in Indiana…so he was gone before I got up and got home most nights after I went to bed during the summer. Had to make money when he could. So I guess watching my mother all those years prepared me for FireCapt schedule. The best thing I can tell you is to understand he was a police officer before you met/married him. If he truly loves it, as FireCapt loves being a firefighter, then it is a part of him. To love him you have to love and be understanding of his career as well. Turn to friends and family, express your fears, deal with them and go on. What he is doing is noble and good and a benefit to society. I know you know all this. It will never be truly easy. I’ve been with FireCapt for almost 4 years now. There are times, especially when I have to go to events by myself that i miss him dearly. But I know how much he loves what he does and how much it is a part of who he is. So, I grin and move on. I can’t imagine my life without him and therefore I must accept the crazy schedules too. I hope this helps in some way. If you ever need to talk you can feel free to email me.
SO and I have been together for about a year now. His last bid they changed to 12 hr shifts rotating, It’s been hard because as soon as he gets used to being up all night he is off. He has children from a previous marriage (I have a child as well). So he has day time responsibilities and a night time job, which is not good for sleep either. As far as being alone it really only bugs me when he work his three day weekend. I am a social worker and just went from 4 10hr days to a 9 to 5 so we have lost a day together.
@MrsWTD: Yes. I work in a section that directly supports his watch so we both work 4 days on (him 12s, me 10.5s) so it works nicely. He did wear his uniform and the canadian federal police are paramilitary so we had an honor guard as well. Guests thought is was really cool and different.
@mom2bbg: Ahh, havng kids that he spends time with as well on his days off does definitely make it more difficult for the two of you. Do you join them as well? Is it possible to spend time with your SO and his kids together?
That’s the bad part about the morning watch. Having to get your body used to day time hours for your days off and then your body gets screwed up again once you get back to work. When my FI was in morning watch, his first day off was basically a day of getting his body used to a regular day. In regards to him working the three day weekends when you’re off, is it possible for him to try and get SOME weekends off? For us, all the officers request their own schedules and it really depends on what’s going on, and they usually get a good amount of their requests. Unless your SO is in a specialized unit like Vice or Gangs, then it gets a little more difficult to request weekends off. I really hope things work out for you guys schedule wise. It’s tough, but it’s a sacrifice we have to make. 🙁
@SapphireSun: Oh, awesome. If only FI’s dress coats for their uniforms weren’t so short, I’d love for him to wear his. Oh well, he’ll look sexy in a tux anyway. We have our cake topper and my garter to show off some police love. 🙂
I’m a paramedic too! I’m marrying a firefighter. Do you have a lot of people from you jobs going to your wedding?
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