Badgering people about declining an event

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is it rude to push people about declining an event?
    It's always rude : (52 votes)
    96 %
    It's okay if you think they're lying about the reason : (1 votes)
    2 %
    It's always okay : (0 votes)
    Something else : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    9949 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @Bebealways:  It sounds like he is bitter about something that happened at work.  Ignore him — he’s being an ass.  It is NOT normal to badger people about their responses to invitations.  An invitation is just that — a request that you attend. While normal etiquette dictates that you attend the event to which you responded in the affirmative first, this is different and he should understand that!  Jeez.

    Post # 4
    Member
    4072 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    He’s out of line calling you all out. How rude. He’s allowed to not like the Korean working culture and how you feel required to go to these dinners, but he shouldn’t be shaming you for respecting what’s expected of you in the work environment.

    Post # 5
    Member
    563 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @Bebealways:  That was very rude of him. I agree with you that the only way you should push the issue is to offer assistance such as transportation or financial support. Even still, you cannot ‘push’ or ‘force’ anyone to do anything against their will unless you are the parent of a young child! At least this confirms the fact that he is not a good friend and he is not someone you should keep in touch with after he moves. Try not to take it personally as he has likely done this to many friends and acquaintances (at least 3 others in this case).

    Post # 6
    Member
    5207 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    @Bebealways:  don’t even respond to him. Yes, what he did was absolutely rude and childish. Your job takes priority over an acquaintance’s party.

    Post # 7
    Member
    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Wow. That is COMICALLY rude!

    Post # 8
    Member
    3377 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2000

    @Bebealways:  F-Book is what I call it, it seems to generate a lot of unhappy social issues.

    Ooommmmmmmmmm, breathe deeply,  Ooooooooommmm.

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