(Closed) Badly behaved cat- I really need suggestions

posted 6 years ago in Pets
Post # 3
1576 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

He needs to be sequestered somewhere. In a room, with his own litter pan and food and water. Allow him out only under direct supervision. YOUR lady needs her own space too, even if just for a few hours in a bedroom or something.

Post # 5
4676 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Does your sister clip his nails?  Or how about putting those claw caps (caps that get glued onto his nails and come off naturally when his nails grow) on?  Does he have any sort of scratching post?  He should have something to scratch on even if it is just a cheap-y cardboard one.  I’d probably insist your sister provide some of this stuff for her cat.  

Post # 7
1140 posts
Bumble bee

Have you ever watched “My Cat From Hell” on animal planet? It’s a really great show to give you a perspective on cats animal behavior and why they do some of the things they do. It seems like you are very in tune with what the cat needs in order for him to stop acting out. Now if only you could convince your sister to recognize what her cat needs. A long with keeping their potty area and food area clean, they need to be played with and given high places to perch…such as the cat tree you suggested. My cat used to be a demon terror when he was  little and I noticed after i gave him special play time…just 15-30 min a day, he didn’t act out. plus i change his litter box 3 x a week, and he perches on top of the fridge to over look our house (which exercises his big cat demeanor). hope this helps. good luck!

Post # 8
7992 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

Try a feliway spray to stop him clawing the areas he usually claws. Put out a feliway diffuser in his room to calm him down. And you must insist that the vet or your sister clips his claws… it is part of basic cat care and does not cause them pain. Personally, I think that declawing is inhumane (and is not permitted in the UK, for precisely that reason) but I realise it is common in the US. Does he have access to an outside space? I read once that cats were often indoor only in the US. He may be one of those cats that requires an outside space of some description… I have found in the past that this dramatically improves behaviour (my kitten was starting to go crazy before I had her spayed, but as soon as she was spayed and allowed outdoors then her behaviour improved so much, and she became much more loving). You could also consider a microchip activated cat flap, if you don’t want your cat to go outside but you want to give your sister’s cat the option.

Post # 9
637 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Mrs McCain 2012:  That show is exactly what I was thinking of!


@LindsayMaree:  I think both cats need to be excersised (letting them just have the run of your apt doesn’t count) and they definitely need toys/scratching posts. In your case it sounds like it would be very much worth it for you to pony up the cash and buy the posts/trees on your own. If you don’t give them alternatives, they will do exactly what your sister’s cat is doing and scratch the carpet, your furniture, etc. It sounds like he might just be bored. Both cats should also have their nails trimmed regularly. I have two cats, neither declawed and although they’ve known each other 8 years, they still like to kick the crap out of each other almost once per day. Seriously, it lasts about a minute and then they’re best buds again, cleaning each other’s faces! Cats are nocturnal, so it makes sense that your two knock each other around in the middle of the night – especially if they’re not expending any additional energy during the daytime. I definitely suggest you try to find that show the PP mentioned – you can probably find it online and it will definitely provide you with a lot of suggestions.

Post # 10
9 posts
  • Wedding: August 2011

Our cat has damaged the carpet outside of our bedroom door (because she wants to come in and play at 3am). We have found that trimming her claws helps tremendously. Shorter blunt nails cause way less damage to your home and makes playing with the cat much less painful. It only costs $15 at the vet to get it done, and it needs to be done about every 4-6 weeks.  Also we found that laying down a sheet of aluminum foil where she is clawing up the carpet (outside/under our bedroom door) has stopped the carpet damage completely. Apparently cats don’t like the feeling of the aluminum foil. This has 100% worked for us – good luck!!!

Post # 11
466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Both of my cats went through a period of scratching to get attention. The youngest has even torn up carpet if we locked him in a room… I found that a large amount of toys, scratching posts and cat castles have almost solved the problem. I also make really loud noises (like clapping hands and stamping my feet) and it is enough to scare them to stop it happening. 

The only other thing I can think of is getting a diffuser with hormones in it to calm him down. All options will cost money so it seems like its almost time for an ultimatum. If she doesnt try and fix it, she will have to move out. It may not be the most ‘family friendly’ solution, but its so unfair for not only your cat, but for you and your landlord to keep him there if she is doing nothing to solve the issue.

Post # 14
10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@Rachel631:  Letting cats outside is incredibly destructive to the environment, as they kill off local bird populations. It also almost halves their life expectancy due to deaths by other animals and getting hit by cars.

OP: You’re going to have to step up here, unfortunately. If you want something positive to happen, looks like you’re going to have to do it yourself! I would order some Soft Paws online, and also look into having a cat tree either delivered or demand that your sister take you to go pick one out together.

Post # 16
1140 posts
Bumble bee

Thats awesome. The cat tree looks great! Well I am glad she met you somewhat half way…it might not be completely solved but it’s a start.

When my teddy was very bad when he was little…he got time outs and scolding. I know this might sound rediculous but it worked. As soon as he came over and bit one of us or deliberately or attacked us…he got yelled out and put on time  out in a room apart from everyone/everything else just for a few minitues. This won’t work on every cat. My other cat is not as smart as Teddy or deliberately obnoxious; BUT he responded to the punishment and stopped completely. We also snap our fingers and tell him no ( in a stern voice) when he starts being overly aggressive with our youngest cat– and he immediately stops. He does it for attention. I am pretty sure most people underestimate the intellectual level of most cats and don’t try the positive/negative reinforcement route. It worked for us and he never acts up anymore and we love him so much. 

I guess you just have to play with it and see what works for your cats personality/intellectual level. 

hope things get better for you and your Fiance.

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