Balance SO and BFF?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
729 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I don’t mean to be rude to your cousin, but does she realize she’s married and has a child? I know, I know – wives and mothers can go to the bar…I totally support that. But if her husband is WORKING at the bar, and she is PARTYING at the bar, who’s watching the child? Besides which, it kind of seems overaell that she’s still trying to live the single girl lifestyle, when she is clearly not a single girl anymore.

I think you should be straight with her. “Sara, I’m happy to see you when both our schedules allow for it. Let’s have dinner next Friday.” If she comes back with “Ugh, you suck,” “Sorry you feel that way. See you later!”

Post # 4
3128 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Maybe it will be easier once she moves back so you can see her during the week when your FI is not around, but I agree with @chercee:, address it with her directly. If you tell her “FI comes to stay with me for the weekends so I won’t be going out Saturday nights but I am more than happy to get together on Fridays” or whatever the case may be. If you tell her it will consistantly be this way maybe she will quit asking every week. 

Post # 6
2114 posts
Buzzing bee

@CA_bee:  Im sure your cousin is a lovely girl but…she sounds a teeny but selfish/inconsiderate. Especially stating “SO?” after your remarks about it being inconvienent to move in with her.

I would probably tell her what the other bees have said. I am happy to hang out during the week but my weekends are my time to spend with my bf who I dont see all week. Surely she can understand being married herself. If not, im sure she will get over it eventually.

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