Post # 1
My Darling Husband and I live in the same city as all of our parents (his and my TWO sets, since my parents are divorced). I’ve always felt bad about making him run around to all my families, due to the divorced parents, for the sunday night dinners and holidays etc. But at least I’m used to juggling parents. He isn’t. But now that we’re married he is having to adjust and it’s becoming more difficult for both of us to juggle them all. All our parents want attention and sometimes its really hard for us to decide which dinner invitations to accept when it means turning down invites from other parents. And sometimes I just plain wanna go to my parents and he just plain wants to go to his. But we prefer to do things together. Do any of you have a system that works for dividing time between the parents?
Post # 3
we trek and schlep no matter what.
I’ve been doing it since i was 6, and he got used to it while we were dating…so the marriage will be no sweat. We just make time.
His family normally packs it in earlier so we do 2 hrs there first 2 hrs with mom/dad or vice versa. that tends to end the day.
Post # 4
I think that’s a pain for a lot of people…we have sort of gotten into a routine about whose family we hang out with. We almost always have dinner with his family on Thursday nights and then other nights (maybe one a week) we might do something with my family. On Sunday afternoons, he almost always goes to watch football with his dad and I go do my nails at Mom’s, so that’s a nice compromise. I feel like you just have to get into those little routines so things won’t be hectic and that’ll just be what you expect you’re doing so it cuts down any potential scheduling drama.
Post # 5
I know what you’re feeling. I mean, I know that I’m really lucky to have my parents and my husband’s parents in the same city as us. It’s definitely a blessing. But it can also require you to split time.
Could you maybe pick out a certain day of the week for certain parents? For example, my in-laws have us over for dinner every Monday night. It’s really sweet of them, and that’s time that we have blocked out just for them.
Post # 6
Splitting time is tough. We live on the east coast, my parents are a 12 hr. drive away, and his are on the west coast. So… we mostly just see family for holidays. But even splitting those is tough. I don’t know what we’d do if we had all our family in the same town. I don’t really have anything helpful to say, but good luck!