- 3 years ago
Honestly I knew this would eventually happen, but I didn’t think it would be before the baby is even born!
Background: SO grew up Catholic, his parents are very Catholic and still attend church every week. He was baptized, but never confirmed. His aunt who works at the church made a fake confirmation sheet so it looks like he was.
I grew up a hodge podge of Lutheran and Presbyterian. I was baptized, had a first communion and was confirmed. My parents have since become “born again” and go to a non-denominational church, they are devout, were rebaptized, they go on missions trips and obviously attend church every week.
SO and It think God is good. We do not attend church, but do consider ourselves believers. He is not a fan of the Catholic church (he went to Catholic School) and I am really not a fan of the Catholic church, though I do believe there have been some positive strides lately.
Yesterday his mother started trying to talk to me about baptism. Both my SO and I do think it is a good idea. I casually brought it up to my mother because I wanted her opinion about asking my younger brother to be the Godfather instead of my older brother…nothing permanent, just an initial ran out of things to talk about so I brought it up kind of thing.
Well, at that point I found out that my parents no longer believe in baptism and their church does not do baptisms (something about how babies were not baptized in the bible, they were all knowing adults so baby baptisms don’t count?!). Anyway, I didn’t think much of it, I just figured fine we will do it in the Catholic church, my parents won’t be mad, they just know their church wont do it.
That was when I found out that if we do it in the Catholic church no one in my family or any of my friends really could be a godfather/godmother. That pissed me off. Also I already know that our relationship is not acknowledged by the church (he is divorced and we are not married yet) so quite frankly I don’t think the church deserves us! haha
Anyway, I feel like I have A TON of time to make the decision, SO said it is up to me…but the mothers are now asking what we are going to do!
Bees, what would you do?