Post # 1
My fiance and I both attend a Baptist church where his father is the pastor. I know that many baptists (especially those at our church) pretty much consider dancing to be of the devil. So I’m curious, are there any other baptists having a dance?
We’re really “evil” and not even keeping it to slow reserved dancing, theres definitely going to be Gagnam Style, Party Rock Anthem and lots more like that!
Post # 3
We’re not Baptists, but we are from a church that views dancing as the same way.
We’re not having any dancing in our reception, not even a first dance or dancing with our parents. We don’t hate on people who do love to dance, but we like to obey the teachings of our church. To each his/her own.
ETA: Just read your post again that your FI’s father is the pastor of the church that views dancing is evil? I think out of respect for him you probably shouldn’t include dancing in your wedding, and just have an afterparty.
Post # 4
To clarify, its the view of the more conservative and older members of the church that dancing is evil. My fiance’s father doesn’t care.
Post # 5
I’ve always found the idea that dancing and drinking are forbidden to be a very odd one, especially because Jesus loved a good party. Look at the wedding at Cana!
I’m not a baptist, but have attended baptist churches in the past. They didn’t see the problem either.
Although I don’t enjoy dancing, I will put on a rock and metal fest at the wedding, with songs hand picked by me. I’ve chosen them all with care!
As far as offending guests goes… this is a tricky one. It’s very difficult to balance other people’s feelings with the desire to be authentic to yourself. Perhaps you would like to have a look at other threads which deal with similar balancing issues?
Post # 6
The Bible speaks of dancing in a very positive manner, so honestly I think it’s odd that any Christian denomination would find it evil. I’m not Baptist so maybe I can’t really speak on this, but if you don’t personally believe dancing is wrong, and you enjoy it, I don’t think you should feel bad about having it at your wedding.
Post # 7
Dancing (and drinking and gambling) being bad in conservative churches is a relatively modern thing, from the mid 1800s when people could only really dance in places like saloons that were also frequently brothels so good, respectable Christians didnt go there. So,personally as one fellow Baptist to another, unless your reception is in the church, dance away because I am going to guess you arent having your reception in a brothel.
We didnt have dancing because our reception was in our fellowship hall, but my sister did and we had a bunch of deacons wives doing the cotton eyed joe and cupid shuffle.
I would keep it less cluby music where “grinding” dancing would happen amd have like two-step, swing, and line/group dance kind of music. Even my BSM group can dance to those! And less likely to be objectionable.
Post # 8
I completely get this one (Raised Pentecostal). However my FI isn’t and even if he was we would still have dancing. I don’t understand why some churches look at it so negatively considering how much dancing was in the Bible…and not just in praise to God. I say do it and have a great time!
Post # 9
Some Christians frown at dancing because although it is shown in the Bible as a positive thing, it is shown as dancing for God, as in when David danced before The Lord. Therefore, these Christians believe people should only dance for God and not for manly pleasure.
Post # 10
I think that dancing at you wedding can still be worship to God, even if it is party rock anthem! Just putting that out there! God has called us to live in freedom and to celebrate life!
Post # 11
@Tigerlilybride: We are Baptist but the church we attend is not as strict as the church I used to attend. We are having a reception at a seperate location with dancing and an open bar! lol We are really bad!! But my last church said we could dance as long as I only danced with my husband and father and no one else.
Post # 12
@Tigerlilybride: lol really? this is a thing? i’ve been baptist my whole life and i dance. we’re definitely dancing at the wedding.
Post # 13
I grew up Southern Baptist, and while alcohol was a no-no, there was never any issue with dancing. (It wasn’t done if a reception was held at the church, but there was no problem with dancing in general.)