Bar: hosted, open, cash

posted 2 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

To answer your questions:

Yes, your mom is right. Making your guests pay for drinks is rude. If I saw that you hosted your reception at a fancy hotel and then made me pay for drinks, I would be very confused. Host what you can afford.

No, don’t put that on your Q&A. Most people don’t know the difference, and hosting a limited selection is fine. 

Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Open bar is all I know in my area and social circle. these threads normally go south so I won’t insert my opinion. Do what makes you happy!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - NH

I covered beer and wine and all non-alcoholic beverages throughout the night.  We did let people have the option of buying other drinks if they wanted to, and a few got martinis but for the most part it was beer and wine all of the way.  I like the way we did it personally.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I’ve only been to one cash bar wedding, most among our circle are open bar. Please don’t put anything about limiting your guests consumption on your website. They are adults and don’t need to be told how much they can drink. If you can’t afford the open bar do a limited bar of beer and wine. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

 oh lord, here we go….

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I will say that while I’m very pro open bar or limited hosted bar, I’d rather have a cash bar than nothing. i just hate having to shell out $8 for a drink. Wedding venues seem to charge higher prices than bars and restaurants and it sucks. 

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

We did hosted, with served wine and drink tickets.  No minors recieved tickets.  Some of the guests we were concerned about if we had an open bar didn’t get wasted.  There were extra tickets to go around.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter's Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

We have unlimited beer, wine and soft drinks, but spirits will be on a cash bar basis.  This is pretty normal around this area – every wedding I’ve been to has had this so I feel like it’s fine.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

crzyorchid:  I think if that is hw you feel then you should do drink tickets – two or three per person for after dinner (which is usually more than enough) as well as a open during cocktails. Other option is to provide non-alcoholic only and the rest cash. And the provide all drinks is a regional thing, not an ettiquette thing (it drives me crazy when people say this). In my region the thing people typically do is either all cash or have open during cocktail hour, provide wine during dinner and cash after dinner. I have been to only one open bar. Whatever you do you should be comfortable with what you choose.You could also choose to provide only a certain type of liquore all night.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 5 months ago by  laceydoilies.
Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

crzyorchid:  I would do one of a few things.  1. Find a different venue, maybe south of LA?  I know Stone Brewery, in Escondido, has awesome spaces for weddings…but that may be too far and not what you want.  If you stay near LA, you might want to keep searching…art galleries?  Something different?  You might find a cheaper option.  2. Do beer, wine, and non-alcohol drinks only (if it’s an option), as another poster said.  Then if people want hard liquor they can pay for it.  3. Elope!!!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

crzyorchid:  There are a lot of people with strong views when it comes to bars at weddings lol. 

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Must weddings I have gone to host beer and wine which I’m fine with. I would rather have the option to purchase my alcohol over no alcohol being offered.

ETA: what is the norm for your social circle?

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