- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
So, FI made ANOTHER huge mistake. He told me I had to hold up on planning because we had to have a “family meeting” with his parents. It involved the food, guest list, flowers and talking about the bar options for the caterer. THey are paying for food and flowers, not drinks. I was told their bartender would be cheaper. Okay, I will wait and talk it out. a whole month later we finally get together (they live 10 miles away at most) They are busy, but I am stressed at this point.
We get there, and they wanted ALL the information regarding the wedding planning that I was told by FI to not do until that night. Okay, stressful, but I can get flower choices and the other little details done by next week. Even though I wasnt “planning” I already had good ideas.
The issue was, I cancled with MY bartending company (advice from FILs,) and found out last night that their caterer is charging PER GLASS!!! 4.25/wine 3.75/beer. for 200 people!! FFIL is trying to convince me that at most on average ppl drink 2 drinks per night, and that would bring us to our MAX budget. I KNOW this is wrong even for their family. Last wedding I know I had two drinks and I didnt have nearly as much as everyone else.
Also I have told them repeatedly that my mom, sister, step mom, and I dont drink beer or wine. I wanted the option of a signature drink. The caterer charges $5/cocktail. In addition, my dad gave me a budget for his contrubution, and his ONLY request for the whole wedding was Bud Light. Not an option with the caterer, and FI thinks he will get over it. I dont WANT him to get over it, I want him to be happy with his only request. Okay, He also requested no “baggy pant rapper” music, but thats not a money issue. lol
I checked old emails from my first choice bartendering company last night to get all the information again. They charge $500 for two bartenders for the night, and we provide all drinks and accessories. You can rent, but FILs have most the accessories we need, so all I would need is ice, 2 buckets, and drinks. Total cost: $2000/200 people!! $500 less than our max, and I get my drink, and everyone will have plenty for the night (but not crazy drunk amounts)And it would honestly be a get way to get my dad busy before the wedding to pick up the drinks (he offered)
My only issues now, convince the FILs, and see if my place will do it now. AND FI is not allowed to be a go between for his parents. He is on probation. This is a HUGE head ache