- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
I think its weird that you are charging your guests for drinks and pocketing the profits.
Not having an open bar because you can’t afford to cover the tab is one thing, but inviting your guests out and then making them give you money at an event your hosting is just weird.
@Jbomb1989: I don’t think you’ll even recoup your losses on it, let alone make any money, but I could be wrong. I suppose it depends on how many guests you have that are above drinking age and then how much those guests actually drink/are willing to pay for drinks. You’d need a lot of drunk people just to earn back the $1500 though. A lot of people think it’s really tacky to make guests pay for drinks too, so there’s that. Everyone I know just decides not to drink at all if they’re at a wedding with a pay bar instead of an open bar.
ETA: I also agree with Asscherlover that it’s weird that you would ask guests to pay for drinks and then keep the profit for yourself. This seems rude to me. They’re your GUESTS. First, if they want to give you a gift of money they will, second I usually suggest not to do a bar if you can’t afford the cost. Having a bar at an event you’re HOSTING where you profit off your GUESTS seems really strange, and quite frankly rude. I’ve never heard of anyone actually trying to make a profit on a pay bar. The only time I’ve ever heard of a pay bar happening is when the hosts can’t afford booze for everyone and even with that there’s usually a 1 or 2 free drink standard and it’s only when you get above that where you have to start paying.
I think it’s super weird to charge your guests for drinks in order to make money. But if I’m reading correctly, your MIL is using this as your wedding gift from her? So your guests will be paying for your wedding gift from your MIL?
If there’s an option to just have your MIL pay for the bartenders/alcohol so that your guests can enjoy an open bar, I’d go with that (and it would be a much better “gift” than maybe making a couple hundred dollars).
I suppose that it depends on how many guests you have and how long the reception is so that you can determine an estimate of how many drinks people will have. There are other variables like day of week and how your guests typically drink.
What’s a toonie bar? Also think it’s weird to purchase drinks and have your guest pay for them and attempt to make any profit off of them.
TO – juliablouin: As a Canadian I get the whole Toonie Bar thing… and that it won’t necessarily be an OPEN BAR… (for any Non-Canadians reading this OPEN BARS are really a rare item here in Canada, because Alcohol is just so dang expensive… most Weddings & Events here have Cash Bars)
Like the others though, I think it is tacky to even consider the fact that…
(a) someone in the family would even make a profit off your Wedding Guests (be it your MIL, or you guys)
(b) that “profit” then would become a gift to you guys… as someone else said is just so tacky. Your Guests subsidizing your MIL’s Present is just awful.
Infact BOTH of these above examples are beyond strange IMO
A DIY Bar is a lot of work … Preparing the Alcohol Order – Outlay of Cash – Pickup of Alcohol – Organizing Glassware, Accessories (Napkins, Ice, Garnishes etc) – Hiring & Paying Staff etc
Based on your info, the $ 3 Bar seems like a much better idea IMO and the option I’d choose
Hope this helps,
TO – TwoCityBride: A Toonie is the name of Canada’s $ 2 Coin… and a Toonie Bar is when someone is therefore charged $ 2 for a drink.
As alcohol is sooo expensive in Canada, OPEN BARS are virtually unheard of up here… more often than not Events & Weddings have CASH BARS. When a Host wants to offset the cost that Guests incur, then they pay the difference, so that the Guest can drink for just $ 2 an item (vs say $ 6 to $ 12 per item PLUS Taxes & Tip for another 30% more ontop of the base price) Lol, yup alcohol is an expensive sin in Canada !!
@This Time Round: most Weddings & Events here have Cash Bars
What!? I’ve lived here all my life and only attended ONE cash bar wedding (which I was a bit shocked at because I don’t agree with them).
I think it depends on the area you live in. In larger cities, I’d say it’s looked at as really “insert T-word here* to have a cash bar.
TO – Juliepants: There is only one city that I know of in Canada where an OPEN BAR is common place… and I’m guessing that it is the one you are referring to (Toronto)
Toronto being far more in line in many ways with social customs one would see in major US cities (tends to have to do with both Toronto’s economic situation / richest city in Canada – and the fact that it is Canada’s Business Centre… so gets a lot of influences from the US)
Everywhere else, including a lot of Canadian good sized cities (as well as rural areas) Cash Bars (or Toonie Bars / or other alternatives to off-set some of the cost of Alcohol) are by far the norm… my having been to Weddings right across this country these past 50+ years.
PS… Lol, that isn’t to say that ALL Toronto Weddings are OPEN BAR Events, I think you’d find there is still a good amount of ones that have CASH BARS as well… you just probably haven’t come across one as of yet in your current social circle.
@This Time Round: I’m not even sure what this thread is about since the OP deleted the post, but just wanted to say… I’ve been to many Canadian weddings (my mother is from NB, so we have lots of family there still), none of them in Toronto, and all of them have been open bar. It must vary circle-to-circle, and not simply reduced to “outside of Toronto, everyone has cash bars..” because that’s simply not true in my experience.
TO – abbie017: Don’t take just my word on it…
Here is a past post from WBee where there are lots of posts from fellow Canadians right across the country…
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And gist of the OP’s Question was…
What if the MIL bought all the booze (by the bottle) and the fixings etc, and hired the Bartenders. She then charged everyone $ 2 per drink (a Toonie Bar). Thinking that the profit that was made, she could gift to the B&G as a Wedding Present.
i see no problem with cash bars or only charging $2 a drink and paying the whole cost of the drinks they consume, HOWEVER if you get the money that the guests pay for drinks, i don’t agree with that. there is nothing wrong with cash bars in my opinion
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