Bar question

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Which should I do?
    Tell the coordinator : (5 votes)
    19 %
    Talk to family directly : (4 votes)
    15 %
    Run a tab until it reaches a certain point and then close it, leaving the cash bar : (17 votes)
    65 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    5460 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Maybe you could do a modified bar… something like beer and wine only, or even just wine with dinner?  

    I think it could be offensive to tell another adult how to behave (even if it’s warranted…) and setting limits on everyone because a few people can’t control themselves is a bummer. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    576 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    @jb20:  Is there another options? Neither seems super polite to your guests. Can you have a limited open bar, i.e. just beer and wine to lower the cost?

    Post # 5
    Hostess
    8680 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I don’t think it would go over good if you tried to tell grown adults how much alcohol to drink..

    And, I’m also not sure how your venue would be able to keep track of “3 drinks per guest” unless you did some type of tickets. Even so.. people who didn’t use their tickets, could give them to someone else, and then they’d have more than 3.

    Post # 7
    Member
    2913 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

    Don’t do either of those things. As PP said, limited bar is a good option. I know that my bar had a “no shots” rule.

    Post # 10
    Member
    5460 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @jb20:  So, could you purchase X number of bottles of wine, and when they’re gone the bar is over?  Tell them you would not like to serve anything other than or beyond that?

    Post # 11
    Member
    6505 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I don’t think either is a good idea. They are adults so I don’t think they would appreciate being told how much to drink.

    Post # 12
    Hostess
    8680 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @jb20:  Are you having dancing or a dj or anything? If not, I wouldn’t even worry about it, with only 15 people there and no dancing or music, I can’t see anyone having more than 3 drinks.

    Post # 14
    Member
    5351 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Remeber that just because you think someone won’t drink, doesn’t mean they won’t – for some people who rarely drink, they will have a drink or two at special occasions, so bear that in mind. 

    While it is odd to put drink limitations on your guests (and not having a cash bar option after that) the best way to do this would be to give guests a certain number of drink tickets. You can make them cute and tie it into the wedding. 

    Post # 16
    Member
    6048 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Yeah telling adults how to behave is probably going to cause some problems.  I’d just have the wedding coordinator to set a limit for how many drinks the bar serves per person.  I wonder how you would keep track of that. 

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