Post # 1
I agreed to be a bridesmaid in my friend’s wedding a year and a half ago. In that time, my life has changed a lot. My husband (of nine years) and I have had a lot of our family die recently, and it has shaken our views on the kind of lives we want for ourselves. Long story short, we decided many many months ago we want to have a baby. I’m no spring chicken, so my fertility, along with other factors, made waiting to try until after my friend’s wedding a decision I couldn’t live with.
Knowing my size would be unpredictable, I ordered my dress large enough to fit if I happened to get pregnant right away, figuring I’d tailor it down as needed. Well, getting pregnant at my age was no easy task. When the wedding was just seven weeks away I still hadn’t passed any tests, so I took the dress in for alterations to fit my 103-pound-body because places were giving six-week turnaround times.
Miracously, I passed my pregancy test and will be 8 weeks along at the time of the wedding! I just picked up my dress from alteration, but I can barely zip it up because my boobs are much fuller, and I’m super bloated. There’s not time to let it out. I don’t even know that there’s the material to do it. I can’t afford it anyway because my FIL lost his job and we’re paying his bills now.
My pregnancy has a high risk of complications (including miscarriage) so my husband and I have decided to not announce it (or our plans to start a family) to anyone until after the baby is born. Since our families live in other states and can’t travel, they won’t notice. My local friends might notice eventually, but I’ll cross that bridge when I come to it.
At the moment I’m asking for low-cost ideas to not look like a stuffed sausage in two weeks. I worry that the bride will be offended if my dress is too snug. I’ve already spent so much on showers, gifts, alterations, the dress, accessories, etc. that I’m unwilling to back out of the wedding. Obviously I can’t diet. Are there spanx for small barely pregnant women? Or zipper extenders? Or safe ways to decrease bloating? Think my body will get any bigger between weeks six and eight of my pregnancy?
Post # 3
@oldmatron: Your bloat might go down naturally. I was super bloated for the first few weeks, but by week 8 I was back to my normal self.
But, you should come up with a back up plan. I’m not sure if spanx are a good idea or not. Maybe you could consult with a seamstress to see what your options are at this point.
Post # 4
I agree with PP, I have not personally been pregnant but I know a few people who were very bloated at first and it went down.
Were you taking any medication to help you TTC? Perhaps those affected things as well?
Post # 5
Luckily, I don’t think most women gain a lot of actual weight between week 6-8, or at least the people I talked to didn’t. So hopefully you’ll just have to deal with the bloating. Number 1 thing I’d say to do is watch your salt. Avoid it, and high sodium foods, as much as possible. It will help a ton if you do that strictly the week of the wedding. Also, I know this is redudant, but drinking lots of water and eating a lot of fruits and veggies helps keep you regular and helps against the constipation.
However, there are those like me, who gained 15lbs the first trimester (8lbs by week 10). I am a bridesmaid next weekend and am getting my dress altered this week thru next because over the course of last weekend it would no longer zip up. I realize your funds are tight, but do know some places will do it in that short of time if you are desperate, especially when you explain it’s because you are pregnant and grew.
Post # 6
Lower your sodium intake to decrease the bloating. If that doesnt work, wearing spanxs for one day will not hurt you. They also make bras to minimize.
ETA: Call you OB and double check.
Post # 7
I’m 8 weeks pregnant right now and I’ve actually lost weight due to all the nausea but somehow am still fuller around my middle especially as the day wears on. Is the wedding earlier in the day or later in the evening? I’m quite small and when I wake up, I barely have a tummy but it gets bigger throughout the day. Definitely have lots of high fiber foods and water to help before-hand with any constipation you may deal with (some pregnant women start to deal with that around this time). Also, try to drink any water you’re going to have WAY before the wedding so you can get rid of it before you put on the dress. In my case, water always makes me look even more bloated.
Maybe if you’re dress can’t fully zip up, you can wear a pretty pashmina shawl that’s the same color of dress to hide that it isn’t fully zipped. I know, that might look weird but it can be an option.
Post # 8
I lost 15 lbs in 8 weeks of pregnancy because of my morning sickness. In this case I would have to say that morning sickness will be a blessing. Come up with an excuse for why you are not drinking before the wedding. because people will ask.
Post # 9
When I first got pregnant, i was very very bloated, but after about 3-4 weeks it went down. I agree about maybe talking to a seamstress or even your doctor may have some ideas?
Post # 10
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
Watch your sodium, maybe? I bet you’ll be fine. I got a “waist nipper” from amazon.com and it was pretty awesome: http://www.amazon.com/Flexees-Maidenform-Collection-Hi-Waist-Boyshort/dp/B0053XF84M/ref=sr_1_5?ie=UTF8&qid=1380843264&sr=8-5&keywords=waist+cincher
And just curious…. you’re not going to announce you’re pregnant until after the baby is born? If you’re 103 lbs… it’s gonna show, girlfriend!!
Post # 11
Why is it too late to get the dress taken out a little?