(Closed) Battered Bride? Good way to get out of murder? – HELP ME

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
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1895 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

is this for real?? is this women for real?? where the hell does she get off telling your dad that he cant take a photo with his daught.. just bc your mom will be in it!!.. i would tell her she is not invited to your wedding.. (thats just me being spiteful)

Post # 5
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1031 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

What is so evil about her…??

This is incredibly racist and hateful. You need to grow up. And you have tons of typos/spelling errors to hate someone else from another country for their trouble with the language.

Post # 7
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2335 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

1.  It is ironic that you criticize her english when your post is full of spelling and grammatical errors.

2.  You sound like an immature brat.  You have no idea why your father decided to remarry and, honestly, its none of your business.

3.  You obviously have no understanding of Taiwanese culture and saying you’re respectful of other cultures is laughable when you made jokes about the woman (“male panda” REALLY?) in the rest of your post.  Maybe posing for photos with his ex-wife is disrespectful in her culture, I can understand that.  No matter what the reason, its 1 fucking picture.  If it doesn’t happen, its not the end of the world.  Thinking you can destroy your father’s marriage is unfathomable, whereas not posing for a picture just sucks a little bit.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

@fiver:  Agreed.

Post # 9
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1562 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@alishaloo:  why is she evil?  

Post # 10
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1895 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@alishaloo:  i think you really need to sit down with your dad and have a talk with him. without her there. and a surprise dress?? do we know anything about it?? oh god what if its to sabotage the wedding.. what if its white.. okay take this bitch out..

@fiver:  i disagree, i dont think she is being racist at all. she just simply hates this women, not because shes asian, but bc of her personality, walking into the (3 wk) relationship with her dad like shes the shit and can say and do what she wants..

Post # 12
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2539 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@alishaloo:  You need to grow up, sit down with your dad and have an adult conversation with him about how you feel. He is married to her, you need to deal with that as horrible as it may be.

Your post was very mean.

Post # 11
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1989 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@BooRadley: i agree

 

I think you should look into the fact that it is against her culture before you flip out.  Whether you and your grandma like her or not, she is your father’s wife.  He is an adult and made a decision to marry this woman.  Show some respect.

Post # 13
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1705 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’m going to try VERY hard to be kind right now, because I doubt you’ll listen to me if you’re defensive.

You may not know what’s going on w/your father’s relationship, but it doesn’t make it okay to disrespect it or his new wife.  I understand that you’re hurt and frustrated, but imagine how hard it must be for her to marry into a family that so clearly rejects her.  I think you need to have a calm conversation with her and tell her that this picture is important to you.  At this point you haven’t even given her a chance. 

Please refrain from the racist comments.  They’re not okay.  And making fun of her for her limited English skills is just mean. 

Post # 14
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1172 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@alishaloo:  Okay calm way down!!!!! Sorry your frustrated, and Im sorry that your having a hard time adjusting to your dad’s marriage.

Let me make some vital points.

1.) Even if we dont directly say we dont like someone, often times that person knows by our body language. So even though you say that you havent said anything to her that she can understand, even different cultures understand body language and dislike.

2.) Dont discount that she doesnt know more english than she lets on. She may have understood some things you said and is holding it against you.

3.) If she doesnt want your father in the picture with you and your mother, it might not have anything to do culture but quite possibly because your father told her about the break up and divorce with your mom. It might have been really painful and he might have shared that. Asian cultures tend to hold grudges, maybe she is holding one for your father. Silly but possibly true.

4.) Your father more than likely knows she married him for a green card. Thats his business and not yours. As for your grandmother, it isnt hers either. How many times do we advise bees that even as well meaning as parents can be that ultimately its your decision? Same case applies here. 

5.) This woman may not have a clue about social graces, perhaps she grew up with none. It behooves us who did grow up with social graces to reach out to those who dont have any and try to help them. It could be that she is super lonely and/or painfully shy. Again I dont care what culture your from, you know when someone is fake and making fun of you.

6. Your father in truth might not want to stand next to your mother after what she did to him. So could be that your dad just decided since you dont like his wife now, it wouldnt matter if she said it or not and if she doesnt speak your language how would you even be able to ask her if she said that.

I think you need to cut her some slack and let your dad deal with his own marriage. As an adult you wouldnt want anyone disrespecting your marriage so please dont disrespect his. 

Also try to understand and be friendlier to her…Maybe things will get better if you actually try to like her as opposed to pretending to her face.

Good luck

Post # 16
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2786 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@BooRadley:  + about 5 million.

OP, you sound incredibly immature, ignorant, and just plain racist. Grow up.

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