Post # 1
I need some etiquette help…we’ve rented the B&B out overnight, but I don’t want guests to feel that they have to stay if they would rather drive home. This is what I have so far on an information card with directions:
“We invite you to stay overnight following the wedding and to join us for a celebratory breakfast at VENUE. Please confirm your reservation by April 17, 2014 by calling the inn at 000-000-0000.
Is this too pushy? How do I give them a way to decline this? Is it rude to make them call to decline if I write “kindly confirm or decline your reservation by calling”?
Also, for guests who will not be able to staying at the inn (4 individual guests), do I just let them know that there is a block of rooms or whatever available at “other hotel” but mention that they are invited to join us for the breakfast but to call and confirm with the venue? I don’t want to put it on the dinner rsvp because it’s already crowded with venue choices, and I’m trying to do both accomodations and breakfast on one card.
Am I also obligated to pay for their rooms if I have for the guests staying at the B&B?
Post # 2
orchidblooms: Etiquette isn’t really my thing or a requirement for my guests.
I think what you’ve wrote is too formal. I’d make it more fun with something like this. [Not my best work but I’m writing it on the fly]
If we’re still partying past two o’clock,
Why not pack a toothbrush and socks?
We will see you later for breakfast or lunch,
To get another chance to say, “thanks a bunch”!
To join us for breakfast please call blah.
B&B at blah
Hilton at blah.
PS. I don’t think you are responsible for paying for people’s rooms.
Post # 3
I’d say, “you are welcome to stay” instead of you are invited. That is softer to me. Also I would say “brunch will be provided for overnight guests at X B&B”
Post # 4
I don’t think you need to mention anything other then the blocked room. Guests who want to stay over will, and don’t really require your invitation to do so. I don’t think you have to mention the second hotel, and could tell anyone else via word of mouth.
Iwould invite all the guests to the brunch the next day, and have a separate insert listing the specifics. Or if you only want those staying over, you could get the list from the hotel and send a sperate mailing.
Post # 5
orchidblooms: Are you required to buy out the venue or are you doing it because you don’t want outsiders to use the venue? Either way I think if you need or want to buy it out for you wedding then that is the decision you make and recouping the cost off your guests is rude. Can you just allocate the rooms to your families and bridal party members?
Post # 6
j_jaye: We were required to buy out the venue. I’m not charging any guests we have there at the B&B, but for people not invited to stay at the B&B, we are not paying for their overnight accomodations but want to extend the brunch invite.
gemchick82: That wording is cute, thanks!
andielovesj: The one thing is that we have specifially allocated rooms to guests, because some can accomodate those with children, we’d rather our parents have suites, etc. If someone doesn’t book it by the date, I might let my older nieces share a room of their own vs. rooming with parents and such.
andielovesj: Thanks for your input!
Sorry for the delay in replying, I had my hair trial and was away to do that. You ladies are the best!